Why is it important to improve yourself?

slide-4

Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.”  More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us – when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.

You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”

We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself in the mirror and murmurs to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self-improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your fingernails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.

I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notice how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in her environment.

One key to self-improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone with who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”,  “Does my breath smell?”,  “Do I ever bore you when were together?”.  In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self-improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!”  Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve herself.

One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.

Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self-improvement. Self-improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.

Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on.  Accepting your true self is the first step to self-improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.

We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life needs not be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self-improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

“If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run, then walk, if you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther King Jr

Here are some inspirational quotes to get your day started.  

  1. Logic will get you to A-Z. Imagination will get you everywhere.
  2. The person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.
  3. Try not to become just a man of success, but rather try become the man of value.
  4. It’s not that I am smart; it’s just that I stay with problems longer.
  5. Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The most important thing is to not to stop questioning.
  6. The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.
  7. Everyone is a genius, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.
  8. A clever person solves a problem. A wise person avoids it.  
  9. A ship is always safe at a shore – but that is NOT what it is built for.  
  10. It’s fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.

My friend just shared this with me and I thought of sharing it with you, as well …

Health
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did last year.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality
11. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t give in to negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t overdo. Keep your limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need…
18. Forget and forgive issues from the past. Don’t remind your partner of His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree…

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day, give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. Love has healing power.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come…
38. When you awake alive in the morning, be thankful for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not least: Sharing is caring and creates happiness, feel free to forward this to everyone you care about, I just did by sharing these awesome tips with you.

Here are some YouTube videos which I hope you will enjoy,

To our continued success,

Yvonne E. Venter – Louw

How past experiences affect your life

woorde-soos-n-swaard

Sociologist Herbert Mead developed a theory known as social behaviourism, which helped explained why past social experiences help form an individuals’ personality. Mead did not believe that personality was developed by drives or biologically, but more on terms socially.  He stated that the self only developed when people interact with one another. Without the interaction of other people, an individual can’t develop a personality. An example of this is if a child is left in total isolation for a long period of time then they don’t mature both physically or mentally.

Next, social experience is crucial, and this includes the exchange of symbols. Only people attach meanings to words and symbols. If you tell a dog to sit and it obeys then you may give it a snack. However, this doesn’t mean it knows why to sit down, but it does so to get food. You can tell a dog to sit for numerous reasons such as wanting to impress your friends or to calm it down because it is running all over the place. Also, Mead noted that understanding individual intentions are critical.  This will help us to analyse how an individual will respond even before we act.  For example, when we’re driving we all anticipate what others may do because of experience. If an individual behind you is speeding up rather quickly, then you can assume that they are about to switch lanes, or you can assume that they are in a rush and need to get somewhere quickly. Mead refers to this as taking another individual’s role.

The truth may hurt someone for a short period but a lei will hurt forever

 Another important theory that is related to social behaviourism is the looking-glass self. This is basically like mirroring what we think others think of us.  If we think others view you as being “good looking,” then you will see yourself as being good looking, or if you think people think that you are fat then you will have that image of yourself. People take the roles of other people during development. Infants have very little knowledge so they tend to mimic others. Children often have creative minds and take on roles of other significant others or people such as parents that have special importance in their social development.  For example, children will playhouse in which someone will take the role of a mother while another take that of a father. As they age children will learn to take various roles and adjust to their surroundings. As we continue to age we will continue to see changes in our social life.

There are a lot of critics of Mead’s theories and some claim that he focuses too much on society in developing an individual’s behaviour. Another sociologist Erik H. Erikson stated that, unlike Freud who believed that personality was pretty much set in stone in the first couple of years of an individual’s life, that personality changes in stages and occurs all the way up to death. His theory is not all that accurate as well because people experience changes in different orders and times. Through all of the disagreements, sociologists generally agree on this main idea, and that is that the family has the greatest impact on an individual’s socialisation abilities. When an individual is an infant they have no control and usually rely on their parents and family members to help nurture them.

B0

Through family, they learn several communication techniques such as trust, culture, and beliefs.  Don’t get me wrong, not all learning comes solely from family; they can come from the environment as well because in a lot of cultures they use the environment to help raise a child. I guess the saying is true in which it takes a “village to raise a child.” It may not be surprising to you that different social classes tend to raise their children differently. An interesting survey that happened in the United States compared what a lower class family would want in a child compared to that of an upper-class family.  A lower-class family would usually favour obedience and conformity while an upper-class family would tend to favour creativity and good judgment (NORS, 2003).

Have you ever wondered why? Well, the reason is lower-class workers tend to have jobs that they must be very obedient in and are highly supervised. Subconsciously they are gearing their children towards that route and will even use physical punishment to achieve it. In upper-class workers, they tend to have jobs that inspire individuality and creativity which is very similar to the traits they would like to have in their children.

2005 Busy Bee's - 'I wanna be...' Competition

The school also has a large effect on an individual’s personality. If you think about it, you spend a huge chunk of time each day at school. It’s also interesting to note that children tend to play with people of the same race and gender and that boys are more physical and aggressive while girls are more well behaved. Boys also tend to find abstract activities more interesting like video games and girls tend to be more artistic.

The same thing follows when they get to college because boys tend to major in physical sciences, and computing while girls usually major in humanities and arts. In school is where children discover peer groups or individuals that have similar interests as themselves.  People tend to indemnify more with their peer groups and can have conversations about things they understand like clothes, music, and style.  Peer groups are a way for individuals to escape adult supervision, and people are usually more outspoken in peer groups.

During the adolescent years, people tend to identify more with their peer groups because they identify themselves as an adult and that is also a time in which parents are concerned about who their children hang around because they know that who they hang around influence their behaviour deeply.  During these years the mass media heavily affects individuals as well.  Studies have shown that television has made people more passive and lessened their creativity.  In the United States, they spend the most time watching television and own the most T.V sets per household.

Closing notes:

Consider the old saying of “hold your tongue” before you speak, as the impact might not be seen now but will affect an individual for the rest of their natural life. And this I state out of my own personal experience. Enduring 9 years of emotional abuse during the most important childhood years, when the conditioning of the subconscious is the most vulnerable –  affects me to this day. A considerable amount of effort and years of self-development enable me to be able to effectively function with the support of medication.

For this reason, I have collected a fair amount of tools and resources to assist me and I am sharing them with any individual who is looking for a solution -> Click Here

To your continued success,

Untitled

P.S.: Join my mailing for more insight -> Click Here

50 Best Practices …

50-things-by-day-designer

50 Best Practices… For living a well-designed life [Original: DayDesigner.com]

Very few people know what I have truly been through in my life, although some knew something was happening over the previous two years (2014 & 2015) – everyone I had personal contact with kept on asking me “How do you do it? How do you keep it all together?”

Honestly – at times I wasn’t. There were things that did slip through my fingers, opportunities that were lost, bridges that got burnt and, well things that I just did not even take notice of. There are hundreds of excuses and reasons I could come up with why I did not have it all under control … but at the end of the day, there is only one truth…

I DID NOT PLAN ANY OF IT!

Yes, the circumstance of health issues are never planned, being diagnosed with a pregnancy on twenty weeks or the medical implications of medication that was taken in those twenty weeks on the babies or me; nor the resulting medical issues of a thirty-two-week old baby being delivered and being resuscitated in theatre and all the after-effects. And then when I thought we are through with hospitals, my husband’s cancer diagnoses – I mean who plans to have cancer?

All I can say now is, THANK YOU! Thank you for the lessons that I have learned through the past two years and thank you that I was strong enough to get up every morning and keep going through it all.

BUT this is not a newspaper article to sing my songs of woe. I merely mentioned these facts to illustrate a point to you.

My point is PLANNING and ORGANISATION …

Yes, I know there are those that say I do not have time waste sitting and organising everything and then structure a plan like itsy-bitsy-tiny-pieces of a puzzle how my life should be …. And for those individuals I am only going to say this – things are only going to get worse if you don’t.

Take it from me, the way I was running my business, family, home and life before is not how the successful individual does it. If I did not change my way of thinking …. And doing; I would still be sitting somewhere in a corner sobbing my eyes out!

I am writing this blog to prove to you that there is an affordable way anyone – and yes I mean anyone – can get their life back on track ….  if they are willing to take the time to do it. For I have done it and although it has taken me the past year to get it implemented I can honestly say that I now have this sorted.

How you might ask – well, I am not going to say it is easy…. Because truthfully, it is not!

To take stock of your whole life, if you have never been taught how to do it or even tried to implement it – it is going to take some time and a lot of hard work. And I am not referring to taking stock of your financial situation, that I do with my eyes closed for clients every day… I am referring to taking stock of your life as a whole, my life might be busier than some other’s life – but to honestly take stock of my business, our home, the boys homeschooling and …. my own dreams, desires and goals …. and have it all balanced the in the same way a balance sheet should…

Well, that is a totally different matter.

I have made it my mission in life to find solutions and tools to implement in my own life – but could not find one holistic solution; however, I have created my own solutions and found a couple of gems. As you will notice I have pre-loaded several for any and everybody to access …. -> Click here

And here are some business tools I have found to assist me to be more energy-efficient, delivering more productivity.

Commun.it – Social Marketing Tracking Tool: A real-time saver by having all in one spot, with recommendations of what to do next. What a Gem! I save me time, I can now actually track and thank each individual for their engagement.

NitroFocus – Subliminal Learning / Brainwave MP3: With this MP3 I am able to ‘zone in’ and just get things done. Brilliant, especially when I am sitting in front of my laptop.

Sleeping Salon – Brainwave MP3: For those nights when my body is just so tired but my brain is going at a thousand miles per hour of what I still want to do.

ZEN12 – An hours meditation squeezed into 12 minutes, with the boys’ understanding and my business commitments, it is so much easier to get 12 minutes for a refreshing break than trying to get a full hour. Just works perfectly for me.

Pool of Positive Thinking – eBook: I was able to bring inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction to my own life.

Command & Control – eBook: Help me to take command of my own life.

I hope some of these tools are as useful to you as they were to me.

Join my mailing list and I will send you all the little gems I have found from all around the globe -> Click here

To our continued success,

Untitled

Personality and what’s the Real You?

FB_IMG_1445281090045

“Personality” – like many things in life is sort of concrete and can be difficult to define at times. The basic definition is the relatively stable characteristics that are enduring and distinctive which means it separates people from the crowd.

Psychologists that study personalities try to analyse why people act differently to different situations such as why one person acts shy when they first meet a stranger or while some people are just natural and funny and be themselves.  Some scientists believe that this is genetically engraved and that people don’t have much control over this. Other psychologists believe that it’s the environment has a significant say in the way people act.

The truth is that personality is a multi-dimensional topic and requires pieces from various theories because everyone is unique. One theory is the psychodynamic perspective which was discovered by Sigmund Freud. This theory basically states that personality merely exists on the surface and to find someone true personality you have to dig deep in mind. Psychologists who favour this approach believe that personality is an unconscious process, or that the individuals are not aware that they are conceited or confident. He was known for his controversial theory that young boys have a sexual attraction to their mother, maybe he was referring to himself with his romantic relationship with his mother who was 20 years younger than his father.

A theory of the unconscious mind that makes somewhat sense is when people are having a conversation and calls someone they know a different name. For example, if a woman broke up with her boyfriend and got a new boyfriend and calls her current boyfriend her ex-boyfriend name it could mean that he is still in her thoughts.

Freud also believes that dreams hold important motifs in behaviour.  He also believed that personality can be constructed into layers like an iceberg. The part that is buried far below the water is the id or the unconscious aspect. A good example will be children because a lot of time they will act on pleasure without thinking about the end result much. If people would have a strong id personality then this would be a very scary place to live.  People would act on natural impulses rather than conforming to social norms.  The ego is nice to have because it helps people realise reality and help conform to social norms. For example, a lot of people realise that they can’t have their sex and aggression levels high and unmanaged and when they let it go then it usually leads to crimes like rape for one.  Last, the superego also referred to as the conscious aspect is the moral decider.  It decided what is right and what is wrong.  A lot of psychologists didn’t follow Freud’s unconscious theory and a psychologist that was heavily against it was Alfred Adler.  He believed that people were motivated by purposes and goals to achieve something in life.  He also believes that people had the ability to be aware of what’s going on in their life and to consciously monitor their day to day events.  He also believed that people try to compensate for things they don’t have. For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

If people would have a strong id personality then this would be a very scary place to live.  People would act on natural impulses rather than conforming to social norms.  The ego is nice to have because it helps people realise reality and help conform to social norms. For example, a lot of people realise that they can’t have their sex and aggression levels high and unmanaged and when they let it go then it usually leads to crimes like rape for one.  Last, the superego also referred as the conscious aspect is the moral decider.  It decided what is right and what is wrong.  A lot of psychologists didn’t follow Freud’s unconscious theory and a psychologist that was heavily against it was Alfred Adler.  He believed that people were motivated by purposes and goals to achieve something in life.  He also believes that people had the ability to be aware of what’s going on in their life and to consciously monitor their day to day events.  He also believed that people try to compensate for things they don’t have. For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, in which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

Last, the superego also referred to as the conscious aspect is the moral decider.  It decided what is right and what is wrong.  A lot of psychologists didn’t follow Freud’s unconscious theory and a psychologist that was heavily against it was Alfred Adler.  He believed that people were motivated by purposes and goals to achieve something in life.  He also believes that people had the ability to be aware of what’s going on in their life and to consciously monitor their day to day events.  He also believed that people try to compensate for things they don’t have. For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

A lot of psychologists didn’t follow Freud’s unconscious theory and a psychologist that was heavily against it was Alfred Adler.  He believed that people were motivated by purposes and goals to achieve something in life.  He also believes that people had the ability to be aware of what’s going on in their life and to consciously monitor their day to day events.  He also believed that people try to compensate for things they don’t have. For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, in which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is  a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, in which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is  a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving a positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For an example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is  a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving a positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the self-concept which is an individual’s view of their own abilities, behaviour, traits, and personality. If a person has a distorted self-concept than most likely they will be awkward to hang around and associate with.  When analysing self-concept Rogers talked about distinguishing yourself between the real self and the ideal self. The ideal self is the type of person that we would like to be. If a person has a large conflict between their real self and the type of person that they would like to be then the more awkward or maladjusted they will act. To correct this we should try to focus more on our real self and develop a positive view on it and stop caring about what other people want or expect of us and try to have more positive experiences in our everyday lives.  Another way we can help develop a more positive view of our real self is a concept known as unconditional positive regard.  This term can be defined by being accepting of different individuals regardless of their behaviour which is kind of hard to do.  When a person is being rude, aggressive, or disrespectful, as weird as this sounds they still need support and to be loved.  This doesn’t mean to hug someone after they punch you, but more like “I don’t like the way you are acting but I still care about you and respect you as a person.”

When analysing self-concept Rogers talked about distinguishing yourself between the real self and the ideal self. The ideal self is the type of person that we would like to be. If a person has a large conflict between their real self and the type of person that they would like to be then the more awkward or maladjusted they will act. To correct this we should try to focus more on our real self and develop a positive view of it and stop caring about what other people want or expect of us and try to have more positive experiences in our everyday lives.  Another way we can help develop a more positive view of our real self is a concept known as unconditional positive regard.  This term can be defined by being accepting of different individuals regardless of their behaviour which is kind of hard to do.  When a person is being rude, aggressive, or disrespectful, as weird as this sounds they still need support and to be loved.  This doesn’t mean to hug someone after hey punch you, but more like “I don’t like the way you are acting but I still care about you and respect you as a person.”

Another way we can help develop a more positive view of our real self is a concept known as unconditional positive regard.  This term can be defined by being accepting of different individuals regardless of their behaviour which is kind of hard to do.  When a person is being rude, aggressive, or disrespectful, as weird as this sounds they still need support and to be loved.  This doesn’t mean to hug someone after they punch you, but more like “I don’t like the way you are acting but I still care about you and respect you as a person.”

Closing note:

We as a society should take all the above mentioned into consideration when dealing with our own self-development and dealing with others. Only once we can understand ourselves, we will be able to better understand those around us… For not just our own self, but for those we are directly and indirectly affected by our behaviour.

For Additional Resources: CLICK HERE

To your continued success,

Untitled

Join my mailing list for more insight -> Click Here

Victims vs. Leaders

Meet and greet

We often hear the following statement:

“Are you a victim or a victor”

  • but what is it that sets the two apart ….?

Here are some points I have drafted to illustrate the difference between a Victim and a Leader for my oldest son.

 Victims: Leaders:
1
Are at the mercy of others and circumstances – like puppets Take charge of their relationships and circumstances
 2 
Are inconsistent & unstable Are steady, stable, consistent & reliable
 3 
Are like a can of coke. When shaken, they explode all over the place Are like a bottle of still water.  When shaken, there are a few bubbles but calmness quickly returns.
 4 
Wait for others to take responsibility or tell them what to do Take the initiative to do what needs to be done or to do what they need to do
 5 
Blame others Take responsibility for their actions
 6 
Are easily offended. They try so hard to please & don’t feel appreciated Ignore insults. Are people and task centre. Act out their own inner strength and core/essence
 7 
Take everything personally Exude a sense of maturity. Reflect/mirror what is happening in the other.
 8 
Are defensive & feels victimised / easily hurt Detach & reflect  what is happening in the other
 9 
Set others up to show anger to reinforce their position as the victim Are calm, still, focused and in control Exude an aura of authority
  10 
Are easily angered. Show no control of their tongue or situation Give themselves time to think before they speak or act
  11 
Are Passive or Aggressive or Passively Aggressive Identify and acknowledge their anger which they channel constructively.
  12 
Act and speak impulsively Give themselves time to think decisions  &  consequences through
  13 
Whine and complain Show resilience. Bounce back when something bad happens
  14 
Hide behind noise, chaos and confusion Are quiet and organised
  15 
Have an unforgiving spirit, Harbour bitterness,   Nurture grudges Set appropriate boundaries
  16 
Want someone else to take care of them & make decisions for them Take responsibility for themselves & make their own decisions
  17 
Avoid taking responsibility, Avoid making decisions Are responsible and accountable, Take responsibility for their decisions and the consequences
  18 
Avoid commitment Keep their word
  19 
Don’t seek counsel Surround themselves with wise associates
  20 
Adopt the attitude of “Life is about me” Adopt the attitude of “Life is about me & others”
 21
Are selfish and demanding Are considerate, respectful & helpful
  22 
Are ungrateful Show appreciation freely
  23 
Accept others conditionally Accept others unconditionally, Holding the necessary boundaries to protect themselves
  24 
Feel sorry for themselves. Try to get others to feel sorry for them Show empathy to others by reflecting their feelings & giving support, Share their story with trusted others
  25 
Use & take people for granted Respect and appreciate people
  26 
Either only takes or  only give Know how to balance giving and receiving
 27
Are attention-seeking Share the attention with others
  28 
Run away from problems Face problems
  29 
Suffer from feelings of confusion, insecurity & anxiety Are insightful and calm
  30 
Need to be needed Are aware of the difference between caring for and carrying others
  31 
Are involved in other people’s affairs without giving them a chance to explore their own responsibilities Take responsibility for themselves – their own actions, thoughts and feelings. Give support & encouragement   to others to carry their own load
  32 
Control others emotionally Have no need to control others
  33 
Are  self-centred Balance caring for self and others
  34 
Don’t identify their hopes, dreams  Identify their hopes, dreams, visions &   longings
  35 
Regard the fulfilling of duty as a great gift to others “who don’t care or appreciate them” Use their gifts and talents joyfully in service that grows and guides others to maturity and leadership
  36 
Focus on the negative, Assume the worst, Misery loves company Focus on being constructive and positive, Check the facts, Move on
  37 
Are resistant to personal growth Are committed to consistent ongoing personal growth
  38 
Often exhibit immature & inappropriate behaviour   Are emotionally immature Consistently exhibit mature & appropriate behaviour   Are emotionally mature
  39 
Are prone to jealousy Are confident & clear about who they are: their strengths & weaknesses
  40 
Are competitive in relationships Are supportive in relationships
  41 
Are rebellious in relationships Are co-operative in relationships
 42
Have difficulty with setting & Holding boundaries Set & hold appropriate and healthy boundaries
  43 
Play power games, Are manipulative & Are self-interested Are authentic, real, genuine, truthful & transparent Are disinterested
  44 
Don’t have a sense of their self-worth, Are strangers to themselves Have a true sense of their identity, Are at home with themselves
  45 
Think they need to prove themselves Have no need to prove them. Act out of their core essence
  46 
Have undefined & unrealistic expectations of others. Ask for what they need
  47 
Assume others will automatically  take responsibility for meeting their needs Take responsibility for asking for what they need
  48 
Are re-active, Re-act to what is happening around them Are pro-active, Choose what they think, do and say
  49 
Wait for things to happen Make things happen
  50 
Want to do all the talking and have the last word Are skilled and disciplined listeners Are close & critical observers
  51 
Are often disconnected from themselves, others and by   implication God Himself Are integrated, unified and focused
  52 
Are spectators, Take very little or no initiative.   Criticise the initiatives of others Are participants, Take initiative and calculated risks. They push through with what they need to do
  53 
Undervalue who they are so people undervalue what they do & say Value who they are so people value what they do & say
 54
Make excuses when held to account. Take responsibility when held to account.
   
  55 
Don’t identify their vulnerability (feelings) & limits which then have power over them Identify their vulnerability ( feelings) & limits which then don’t have power over them. “The vulnerable become the invulnerable”
  56 
Have deep-seated feelings of inadequacy and fear Have a sense of competency and trust

ADDITIONAL NOTES:

On a continuum, both victims and leaders can fall off the edge and both need to grow towards something more balanced.
There are shades of grey between each end of the continuum.
The victim role is immensely subtle.
Often there are no obvious elements.
It is often only when a person experiences irritability, anger, guilt & even hurt that he realises he has been caught by the victim.
Leaders in their confidence & strength can become unteachable.
The strength of character of the leader must not become
∆          overbearing
∆          bullying
∆          too demanding
The goal is to move towards a balanced approach to life.

I hope these notes assist you as well as it did for him.

To your continued success,

Untitled

P.S.: Sign-up to my mailing list and stay updated with my blogs, resources, free gifts and so much more, as soon as they are released -> CLICK HERE

Why Should You Set Goals?

slide-4

Wonder why some people could not even achieve an inch of what they dream of becoming? Blame it on pure dreaming and lack of setting goals for achieving their dreams.

Setting goals is a very significant part of success and positive accomplishments. It is like scaling a 20 feet building and marking early on what feet you would like to reach this specific period.

People who set goals literally create a map of their target achievements in life, marking where they should begin, where to pause, where to delve a bit, and where and when to stop. Once this map is created, it allows the map drawer to check where he is in the scheme of things and whether or not he is making some achievements that will take him closer to his goals.

By setting goals, people will know how they are doing and what they should be doing to achieve their targets or dreams in life. They will know if they can relax or if they have to double their efforts when they are falling short of what is expected of them.

Goal setting means a person is proactive in dealing with challenges that may affect his plans. Being proactive means one is able to outline possible difficulties that may occur as well as the solutions to these difficulties. By doing this, a person is not easily scared or defeated when challenges occur because he has already prepared for them. He knows they can happen and he has prepared a solution or strategy when that time comes.

Setting goals will enable people to track their progress in whatever endeavour they have set out to do. It will help people become more confident in themselves and more motivated to achieve their plans.

slide-13

However, goal setting is not enough, as this should be accompanied by a positive outlook and self-discipline. A person may have a blueprint of where he wants to go, but if he does not have the necessary discipline to carry out the plan, then nothing will come out of it.

To be successful in goal setting, the goals that one has set for himself should be realistic and based on his capabilities, as well as selected and important external factors. Being too ambitious in setting up goals can make the goals unrealistic and difficult to achieve. However, do not also set goals that are too low because this might discourage one’s vision instead of achieving it.

It is also necessary that the person setting the blueprint for his direction should also include a time frame within which the goal will be achieved. This way, he is able to determine if he has to fast track his strategies or slow down a bit. Goal setting will also help a person check if he is performing within his plans or if he is doing things towards the achievement of his plans. 

Once you have achieved something, even a little of what you hoped to achieve, then you should always give yourself a pat on the back to keep you motivated. But do not be too complacent with any little achievement, as this may cause you to backslide.

Setting goals can be used in any aspect of one’s life – from one’s personal or family life, to his career and finances.  Goal setting can be as simple as setting a target weight when you wish to lose pounds or something big, like earning your first million.

When setting goals, it is always important to set standards that would suit your present situation, your capabilities, and other factors that may influence the achievement of your goal. 

Here are two tools that I have found very useful in the pursuit of my goals

front-page

-> Goal Planning Tool

-> Heart Goals Template.

To your continued success

Untitled

P.S.: Join my mailing list for more resources, tools and free gifts

-> CLICK HERE

All You Need To Know About Blog Hosts

writing-2

Apart from the chat rooms, instant messengers and electronic mails created for communication and dialogue beyond turf are the emerging innovations that help a man build opportunities for interaction. The need for a personalised and human face aspect of building online communities is slowly changing the technological landscape of the Internet.

Blogs / “weblogs” or blogging are the newest gift of Internet technology to people all over the world. These are updated posts, crop up entries or personalised life snippets, mundane or bizarre in nature. For most, a “blog” is a personal, unedited, and authentic journal meant to be shared in an online community. A blog site is a place where bloggers can publish anything; their thoughts, feelings, photos, special events, experiences, comments on issues and so on. It is more of an online diary with videos, links, documents, newsletters and opinions on just about any topics you are interested in.

Blogs are made to welcome the insights and opinions of all and therefore, should not be written to sound intimidating and too formal. This kind of blog is a sure way to put off the readers. In the basics of blogging, the conversational tone would be more appropriate to reach the desired audience.

Blogging is all about individuals reaching out to other individuals. Having a blog has its own set of advantages:

  • Freedom of Expression. If you want people to hear you out and give their own opinion, this is the best way to create a line of communication;
  • Networking is at its best. Having a blog is a good platform for exchanging genuine ideas from consumers to you as a marketer of a certain product. Sound opinion and a point of view is better than just showing the price quote;
  • Excellent advertising platform. Blogging is a new way to advertise products, a refreshing change from the traditional advertising outlets and it is cost-effective.
  • Gauging public opinion on products and services. The key is nice and catchy titles with new ideas presented in your content. This is an assurance of quick and repeated responses from your readers.
  • Blogs are an excellent spot for the exchange of ideas between the seller and the consumer. Good for measuring public opinion regarding services and products, even political and business matters alike.
  • A useful tool for internal communication. This will help your company to build a knowledge-based community of employees. Also good for harnessing employee relations and identifying human resource issues in advance.
  • Other benefits like search engine optimisation (SEO) will help your blogs to be seen often by as many people as you wish. This is very good exposure for your products and services.
writing-3

Many blog-hosting services are available on the Internet. But the basic question is which one of the services will be the best to start off your business blog program? Business people are usually clueless about recent technological innovations which would help them maximise their marketing potentials. For these beginners, it is best to study first the services offered by blog hosts. An ineffective business blogging program may damage marketing opportunities instead of enriching them.

A company may decide to do the following depending on its capacity and needs:

  1. Host their own blog service,
  2. Pay someone else to host the service, or
  3. Setup a “blog aggregator page” and ask the employees to select their blog hosting services individually. There are paid and free services available for individuals.

For business blogs, they are required to have the latest blogging features; if not, this will prevent them from maximising their marketing, public relations and SEO potentials.

Keep in mind that blogs should have the following basic essentials:

COMMENTS: Welcoming comments provide an opportunity for dialogue. In business blogs, they are a good customer feedback mechanism. This helps develop better customer relations based on loyalty and trust. Blogging is an innovative way to converse with your customers.

TRACKBACK: This helps in the maximising of a company and its product exposure. Through this service, consumers can get back to you for more posts and updates without the difficulty of locating you. If your blog is popular in a specific online community chances are links going back to your blog site are everywhere online, other blog sites or even websites.

CATEGORIES AND TAGS: These both help in classifying blog searches for ease of navigation and on-site search. Categories act as libraries because it classifies posts by subject matter such as business, distance learning, e-commerce, online auctions, etc. Tags, help in the classification, especially in the blog search engine Technorati. Possible customers and new clients locate blogs about certain topics of interest by just clicking the tags.

RSS FEED: Really Simple Syndication is the feed from your blog that is sent out over the internet and collected through the various newsreaders and aggregators.

If your company is to establish a business blogging program, considerable options should be made available by the hosting companies shortlisted for the services. Free blog hosting services are popular but they are much appropriate for individual online journals. Paid blog hosting services offer unlimited packages best for your company’s needs. You may want to suggest checking out some blogs that use the host first, read and examine their layout and design. Another important thing to consider is the reliable technical support the host has.

After, choosing the blog host, a team should be ready to plan the design and structure of the blog: The team should:

  • create a style that meets the needs of the audience;
  • establish an open, credible tone;
  • schedule weekly updating of blog – ideally, a few times a week;
  • include web links of other website and blogs;
  • blog post should be in the “first person;”
  • focus on the business blog objective; and,
  • maintain an honest, engaging conversational quality.

Remember, whatever the look, style and content found on your blog is a reflection of you and your company.

To your continued success,

Untitled

P.S.: For content writing and planning assisting tools -> Click Here

Why keeping a journal will change your life:

Flaterbyes 2

“Keeping a journal will absolutely change your life in ways you’ve never imagined” – Oprah Winfrey…

But why?

Why is it important to keep a journal?

I have found a few reasons, according to some Guru’s, what the benefits are and what a personal journal will provide for you:

  • It is a reminder. It reminds you of your goals and the actions you are taking towards your achievement of these goals, every step, every day. You are writing down your goals – right? If not, do not fear… I have prepared some helpful content to assist you with your goals.
  • A journal is a perfect way to keep track of your progress and to measure precisely from where you have started and how far you have come towards the change you wish to achieve in your life.
  • It provides detailed information if you have supplied it of course…; of the things that you did change and which of these changes was most effective for you.
  • It is a perfect assistance to help you build your self-esteem, as you are re-affirming the positive beliefs you are going to instil in your life and as you get closer to achieving your goals this will become second nature to you.
  • It provides you with a visualisation of a before during and after these changes.
  • As you record your changes in your journal, you will start to see the positive changes, which in return then creates a spiral effect off re-enforcing the positive changes by optimism which in return re-energizes and motivates you to persevere.

Here are a couple of simple tips for starting up your journal; although I have provided you with an outline for your “#FromZero2Hero” – these might assist you to take it even further:

  • Keeping it simple, short log, it is easy to read and it usually takes about a minute to do. Each day, record short entries – list things such as your emotions, attitude, responses to situations and the current conditions in your life… and how you would wish to change it.
  • Always remember to include affirmations and that it is your own choice to believe in these affirmations
  • Gratitude – Saying thank you for at least one thing that happened that day. Creating a ‘Gratitude Attitude’
  • Should something have happened – to which you have reacted differently as before – remember to congratulate and reward yourself… Make a note of how you felt about it. This will re-enforce the behaviour and the change you are aiming to achieve.
  • And a ‘trick’ that I have collected from one of my coaches – Always keep extra pieces of scrap paper in your journal. Why?
    • When you feel dragged down by something, or if an issue is creating an unease, or if you are having ‘one-of-those-days’ and you just can’t seem to dust it off…
    • Write down on the scrap paper, every little detail of what it is, how it is making you feel, or how it is affecting you…
    • Make up a silly little rhyme for yourself, to repeat with the next step. Something like:” Ashes to ashes, dust to dust – I give You my troubles, You’ll know what to do with it I trust!
    • Now – tear it up, burn it, ‘File-13’ it, toss it … even if it is something that you will have to attend to at some stage later today or tomorrow, but throw it away; all that you have just spilt out on that piece of paper.
    • Your physical action of firstly acknowledging the problem and then writing down all the negativity with regards to it… enables you to rid yourself of these emotions and it prevents you from bottling it all up inside.

P.S. – I have struggled for years, with bottled emotions of things that happened in my childhood; things I even struggled to acknowledge with professional help. Things that – always left a very definite taste in my mouth and an undescribed feeling throughout my entire being; Until I was taught this little psychological trick. Doing the physical act of throwing away these emotions that you have just spilt, enables the mind to release the feelings and ‘forget about it” so that you can concentrate on more constructive and positive things.

So, with this in mind – let’s start with your first ‘F#FromZero2Hero’. You may call this little notebook anything you may wish to call it. For me, it again re-enforces the illustration of the word “#FromZero2Hero” and draws attention to success; by whichever means, you identify success for yourself…

To your continued success,

Untitled

Download Free Samples -> Click Here

Personal Finance: Controlling your Debt…

… How To Boost Your Credit Score

Meet and greet

A credit score acts much like your high school report card. It features a three-digit “grade”, which reflects a person’s creditworthiness to potential creditors, banks, insurance companies, mortgage companies and even employers. The higher your score, the greater will be your chances of availing of credit. Here’s how to control your debts, and boost your credit score.

Review Your Credit Report:

writing-2

There are three major credit reporting agencies today, and through these agencies, you can get a copy of your credit report, for you to closely evaluate it. Just like using a fine- comb to weed out tangles and loose hair, you need to review your credit report with a keen eye for incorrect data or any inconsistencies. Check out any incorrect payments, credit limits, or collection data that you strongly feel is not yours. It’s a fact that some typing errors or numerical glitches often show up on some credit reports; therefore you need to get a copy of your credit report at least once a year.

Pay Your Obligations On Time:

sa-money

Always make sure that you pay off all types of debt or bills on time. Late payments or any delinquencies will truly have a major effect on your credit score. If you forget to pay one or two of your bills on time, prepare to have some red marks or black eyes on your credit history. To steer clear of any delinquencies, try setting up your bills for automatic withdrawal from your personal current account so that you won’t have to deal with any collection agency in the future.

Balance Your Credit Card Spending:

writing

Regardless of whether you have one, two or three credit cards, remember to spend wisely and balance your credit card obligations. If you don’t have the money to pay an existing credit card balance at the moment, try getting a loan from a family member or relative, so that your debts can be wiped off from your card, and your credit score also gets a helpful boost.

Never Do Loan Shopping:

Whenever you continually shop for loans or submit to as many lenders within just two weeks, your credit score will surely suffer a major drop. Try to do a cluster of loan inquiries within a proper period of time, like one maybe every three months, so that your credit score remains strong, and won’t have to suffer major drops in credibility with lenders.

writing-3

According to credit experts, a credit score of 300 to 580 indicates that you’ll only get approved for loans that offer very high-interest rates. A credit score of 651 to 710 means that you’ll be able to avail of credit at moderate interest rates, while a score of 751 and up indicates that you’ll be able to get the most competitive and flexible loan packages available in the market today.

To your Financial Success,

Untitled

P.S.: Join my mailing list and be the first to know of new products loaded and the latest blogs…

  • Online Business (Start-up, Resources, Product Offerings )
  • Personal Development (#FromZero2Hero, Resources, Product Offerings and FREE downloads)
  • For an update on the product already available -> CLICK HERE 

thank-you

A Self Portrait… Painting Paint the man by Alex Alemany

Painting Paint the man by Alex Alemany
Painting Paint the man by Alex Alemany

“Personally, I choose to believe this resembles life… you are so busy planning and ‘painting’ your life while your life is ‘painting’ who you are. It is not a mirror reflection, and it is not following your moves… In a matter of fact, it is your character – which will determine what your next move will be before you make it. A self-image is viewed from a different view. The third view… the soul’s view of the heart and mind” – YEVL

A Better You!

I seem to have lost count on how many times I’ve read and heard of celebrity marriages failing almost left and right. Not that I care (and personally I don’t), it seems strange that we often see movie and TV stars as flawless people, living the fairy-tale life of riches and glamour. I suppose we all have to stop sticking our heads in the clouds and face reality.

There are many ways to lose your sense of self-esteem regardless of how trivial it could get. But whatever happens, we should all try not to lose our own sense of self.

So what does it take to be a cut above the rest? Here are some of the things you can think and improve on that should be enough for a week.

“New Strength:

There can be no growth without acceptance, understanding and letting go.

For in moving away, we allow ourselves to heal and gain new strength…”

1. Know your purpose

Are you wandering through life with little direction – hoping that you’ll find happiness, health and prosperity? Identify your life purpose or mission statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your truth north every time.

This may seem tricky at first when you see yourself be in a tight or even dead end. But there’s always that little loophole to turn things around and you can make a big difference to yourself.

writing

2. Know your values

What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are security, freedom, family, spiritual development, learning. As you set your goals for 2005 – check your goals against your values. If the goal doesn’t align with any of your top five values – you may want to reconsider it or revise it.

The number shouldn’t discourage you, instead, it should motivate you to do more than you can ever dream of.

3. Know your needs

Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in control, to be loved? There are so many people who lived their lives without realising their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed for that matter. List your top four needs and get them met before it’s too late!

4. Know your passions

You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you, but will not derail your chance to become the person you ought to be. Express yourself and honour the people who have inspired you to become the very person you wanted to be.

FB_IMG_1439574606000

5. Live from the inside out

Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Communicate with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. For most of us city slickers, it’s hard to even find the peace and quiet we want even in our own home. In my case, I often just sit in a dimly lit room and play some classical music. There’s sound, yes, but music does soothe the savage beast.

6. Honour your strengths

What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List three – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify these. Are you imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you can share what you know to others.

Meet and greet

7. Serve others

When you live authentically, you may find that you develop an interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you give back in service what you came to share with others -your spirit – your essence. The rewards for sharing your gift with those close to you is indeed rewarding, much more if it were to be the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done to them.

Self-improvement is indeed one type of work that is worth it. It shouldn’t always be within the confines of an office building, or maybe in the four corners of your own room. The difference lies within ourselves and how much we want to change for the better.

“An easy life doesn’t teach us anything. In the end, it’s learning that matters what we’ve learned and how we’ve grown” – Richard Bach

Dwight Eisenhower’s speech from 1953:

“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by the dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again…

Who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spend himself in a worthy course; who at the best knows in the end triumph of high achievement, and who, at worst if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly; so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat…”

To your continued success

Untitled

Here are some tools to assist you to start … CLICK HERE

For more feel free to view my Product Offering Page

Floating Social Media Icons by Acurax Wordpress Designers
Visit Us On FacebookVisit Us On TwitterVisit Us On PinterestVisit Us On LinkedinVisit Us On YoutubeVisit Us On Instagram