An Entrepreneur’s Biography

Is Spearheading a Business meant for You?

Not because you’ve got the capital to start a business means that you will be assured of being successful with your business. The truth is, not all people are meant to be successful in running a business. Logically speaking, not every individual is tailored to become one fine entrepreneur. Running a business requires special skill, talent, and ability.

While other people have these factors, a lot of individuals who try out the business world also lack them. It is just like managing plants. If one is a green thumb, then he will likely grow the plants well. It is just the same with business. If you are gifted with such special talents, then you can prove your worth in this line.

Before pursuing any dream in entrepreneurial, you’ve got to take time to analyze things about yourself. When you start investing energy, time, and money, it means you must expect something in return. But then you cannot be assured of winnings in terms of business because there is no guaranteed assurance with business.

Simply taking things into consideration, risks cannot in any way be eliminated. After all, doing business means facing your fears, facing the challenges, and getting it on with the competition. One particular tip for budding entrepreneurs is to always start with smaller capitals so that when losses confront you, it will not be too disappointing on your part. Small businesses are open to the possibilities of improving them to make them big. Armed with careful planning, a great dose of preparation, and the needed insight, entrepreneurial will prove to be on the good side.

So how do you start assessing if you are meant to run a business? It is easy. Simply assess your personality. What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? By recognizing these things that lie within yourself, you will be able to determine the utmost possibilities about your future in the business world. For some pointers, follow these guidelines:

If you are a self-starter, then you most probably have no previous experience in the trade. It means that you will start from scratch. Hence, the development of your supposed to be projects in the coming days and the organization of your time will lie in your own hands. You need therefore to keep track of every single vital detail.

Consider your relationship with people. You will not work by yourself. You need to deal with people. They may be your business partners, your customers, bankers, company staff, consultants, accountants, lawyers, or other vendors in the business market. You need to develop a good rapport. The reputation that you will craft for yourself will be the determining factor for your niche in the market.

Next, how are you when it comes to decision-making? Are you good at it? You must expect that you will be moving in a world that is filled with pressure so your decisions must be rendered quickly, effectively, and independently.

Another thing to consider is your physical well-being. Running a business requires too much of your time. If you are not physically equipped then there is no hope for you. What will happen to you after handling almost 24 hours a day and 7 days a week of work? Do you think you will be able to hang on?

The next pointer to bear in mind is your capacity to organize and carry on with plans. A poorly planned business leads to failures. But then good organization means financial rewards.

How is your drive? Will it be enough for you to be able to handle all those emotional stresses? When you are the business owner, the responsibility solely lies on your shoulder. A good foundation and motivation will always improve your drive to succeed in the business.

Consider also the effect of your being a business owner on the people around you. If you are a family-oriented person, surely you will lack time for them. You must ensure that they will understand you in this aspect. Research studies show that the first few years of the business are the most crucial as the business interferes with personal relationships. Therefore, you must learn how to balance things so that everything will work out just fine.

Moreover, for an entrepreneur to succeed, he must always be persevering and patient. Rushing things will not help. It also goes to mean that the earning of the profit need not be rushed. One must always start things slowly until such time that great opportunities come and knock. There is always the appropriate time to shine.

With Love, Gratitude & Grace

  • Yvonne E. Venter-Louw
  • YEVL (Pty) Ltd.: Founding Director & Principal
  • Researcher, Advisor, Educator, Coach, Mentor, Keynote Speaker & Host of the Financial Independent Coach show on YouTube
  • Personal Thesis: The Psychological impact of past experiences (and the rehabilitation thereof) on daily driven financial decisions.
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What it takes to Succeed in Business (Guest Post)

by: Murad Ali
Business is tough in today’s world! Most small businesses go bankrupt or are closed abruptly in the first five years. Over the course of the next five years many of the remainders also “pack up” shop and lock their doors. Why do so many businesses fail?

The reasons lie in three main spheres. Those spheres of influence can be labeled personal, customer, and operations.

The Personal Sphere deals with the owner’s personal motivation to start a business. For example, if an owner wants to start their own business, but isn’t willing to make the sacrifices necessary to make it thrive, then they are at a disadvantage when compared to other motivated businesspeople. When a business starts for the first time often it doesn’t have a lot of money. Owners are required to sacrifice time, money, and happiness to succeed. If you can’t do that, it is unlikely that such a business will flourish. Many times owners thought they could handle the hardship but once the novelty of “being your own boss” wears off they close the door.

The Customer Sphere is one of the most important components of your business. Without customers you do not have sales, without sales you do not have money and without money, you do not have a business. Many factors go into generating a good customer base. In the beginning, you must have a cost-effective marketing strategy that targets your intended buyers. This can be done by developing a psychological profile of your customer and then advertising in those places that they frequent. Because it is more expensive to get a new customer than it is to keep one you must make sure they are satisfied with your business and product. Keep in touch with them by sending them a follow-up letter with a survey.

The Operations Sphere is only second to the Customer Sphere. In operations you must have an appropriate method of reducing costs, keeping track of paperwork, and maintaining improvement. Operations can also take into effect the tax paperwork, accounting, scheduling of workers, benefits, or any non-producing functions.

If all of these three components are well thought out and are appropriately designed you will increase your chances of survival. Failure to understand the integral details of your business and what it takes to succeed may mean failure in the long run. If you are having difficulty putting all the pieces together then consider a small business consultant.


About the author:
Murad Ali is the published author of “A Call to Greatness: Reforming the Muslim World” and “An American Mecca: A New Muslim Homeland” available at most large bookstore websites. He is also the editor of the Muslim Times and a doctoral student.
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Meaning: What is a Life Coach?

A life coach is much like it sounds, someone who helps a person with their life and tough situations that they may be encountering. A life coach can effectively help you get your life into order and create the organization as well as a great outlook on life in general. Many people don’t realize how much of a help a life coach can be for someone who is trying to get their life together. Life coaches are trained solely for the purpose of helping others, which is why it is very important to consult with a life coach that has had such training.

Although many people feel that it isn’t hard to become a life coach, those that are life coaches beg to differ. Becoming a life coach is much more than just listening to someone else’s problems or allowing them to cry on their shoulder, which is what many people don’t understand. A life coach has to know what questions to ask an individual as well as what tough questions to ask. Not only that but they also have to have certain tactics and methods to aiding the person and fixing their problems within their life.

It is very important that when you are searching for a life coach that you pick very carefully. Many people will claim to be a life coach but won’t carry out the true duties involved in being a life coach to someone. You want to make sure that you are choosing a person that has had experience in the field of fixing problems and tough life situations. It also helps out if a person has reliable sources from past clients that can vouch that the life coach did indeed help them organize their life and also helped them fix tough problems that they went through in their life.

A life coach’s main goal is to help with the motivation of a client. In a sense, a life coach can become your own personal cheerleader when you accomplish the goals that your life coach has set for you. Realize that your life coach wants to see your life changed in a positive way and this means listening, motivating, and guiding their clients in the right direction so that this can be accomplished.

Although there are many different reasons why a person would choose to incorporate a life coach in their lives, as long as you follow the strategies and help given by your life coach, you are sure to get your life back on track… the right way! So if you yourself are having troubles in your life and feel like your life is incomplete shambles and disorganization, then hiring your very own personal life coach may just be your ticket to having the structured and organized life you have always dreamed of.

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  • Yvonne E. Venter-Louw
  • YEVL (Pty) Ltd.: Founding Director & Principal
  • Researcher, Advisor, Educator, Coach, Mentor, Keynote Speaker & Host of the Financial Independent Coach show on YouTube
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Why is it important to improve yourself?

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Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.”  More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us – when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.

You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”

We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself in the mirror and murmurs to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self-improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your fingernails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.

I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notice how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in her environment.

One key to self-improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone with who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”,  “Does my breath smell?”,  “Do I ever bore you when were together?”.  In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self-improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!”  Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve herself.

One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.

Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self-improvement. Self-improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.

Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on.  Accepting your true self is the first step to self-improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.

We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life needs not be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self-improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

“If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run, then walk, if you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther King Jr

Here are some inspirational quotes to get your day started.  

  1. Logic will get you to A-Z. Imagination will get you everywhere.
  2. The person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.
  3. Try not to become just a man of success, but rather try become the man of value.
  4. It’s not that I am smart; it’s just that I stay with problems longer.
  5. Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The most important thing is to not to stop questioning.
  6. The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.
  7. Everyone is a genius, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.
  8. A clever person solves a problem. A wise person avoids it.  
  9. A ship is always safe at a shore – but that is NOT what it is built for.  
  10. It’s fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.

My friend just shared this with me and I thought of sharing it with you, as well …

Health
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did last year.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality
11. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t give in to negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t overdo. Keep your limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need…
18. Forget and forgive issues from the past. Don’t remind your partner of His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree…

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day, give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. Love has healing power.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come…
38. When you awake alive in the morning, be thankful for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not least: Sharing is caring and creates happiness, feel free to forward this to everyone you care about, I just did by sharing these awesome tips with you.

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To our continued success,

Yvonne E. Venter – Louw

How past experiences affect your life

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Sociologist Herbert Mead developed a theory known as social behaviourism, which helped explained why past social experiences help form an individuals’ personality. Mead did not believe that personality was developed by drives or biologically, but more on terms socially.  He stated that the self only developed when people interact with one another. Without the interaction of other people, an individual can’t develop a personality. An example of this is if a child is left in total isolation for a long period of time then they don’t mature both physically or mentally.

Next, social experience is crucial, and this includes the exchange of symbols. Only people attach meanings to words and symbols. If you tell a dog to sit and it obeys then you may give it a snack. However, this doesn’t mean it knows why to sit down, but it does so to get food. You can tell a dog to sit for numerous reasons such as wanting to impress your friends or to calm it down because it is running all over the place. Also, Mead noted that understanding individual intentions are critical.  This will help us to analyse how an individual will respond even before we act.  For example, when we’re driving we all anticipate what others may do because of experience. If an individual behind you is speeding up rather quickly, then you can assume that they are about to switch lanes, or you can assume that they are in a rush and need to get somewhere quickly. Mead refers to this as taking another individual’s role.

The truth may hurt someone for a short period but a lei will hurt forever

 Another important theory that is related to social behaviourism is the looking-glass self. This is basically like mirroring what we think others think of us.  If we think others view you as being “good looking,” then you will see yourself as being good looking, or if you think people think that you are fat then you will have that image of yourself. People take the roles of other people during development. Infants have very little knowledge so they tend to mimic others. Children often have creative minds and take on roles of other significant others or people such as parents that have special importance in their social development.  For example, children will playhouse in which someone will take the role of a mother while another take that of a father. As they age children will learn to take various roles and adjust to their surroundings. As we continue to age we will continue to see changes in our social life.

There are a lot of critics of Mead’s theories and some claim that he focuses too much on society in developing an individual’s behaviour. Another sociologist Erik H. Erikson stated that, unlike Freud who believed that personality was pretty much set in stone in the first couple of years of an individual’s life, that personality changes in stages and occurs all the way up to death. His theory is not all that accurate as well because people experience changes in different orders and times. Through all of the disagreements, sociologists generally agree on this main idea, and that is that the family has the greatest impact on an individual’s socialisation abilities. When an individual is an infant they have no control and usually rely on their parents and family members to help nurture them.

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Through family, they learn several communication techniques such as trust, culture, and beliefs.  Don’t get me wrong, not all learning comes solely from family; they can come from the environment as well because in a lot of cultures they use the environment to help raise a child. I guess the saying is true in which it takes a “village to raise a child.” It may not be surprising to you that different social classes tend to raise their children differently. An interesting survey that happened in the United States compared what a lower class family would want in a child compared to that of an upper-class family.  A lower-class family would usually favour obedience and conformity while an upper-class family would tend to favour creativity and good judgment (NORS, 2003).

Have you ever wondered why? Well, the reason is lower-class workers tend to have jobs that they must be very obedient in and are highly supervised. Subconsciously they are gearing their children towards that route and will even use physical punishment to achieve it. In upper-class workers, they tend to have jobs that inspire individuality and creativity which is very similar to the traits they would like to have in their children.

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The school also has a large effect on an individual’s personality. If you think about it, you spend a huge chunk of time each day at school. It’s also interesting to note that children tend to play with people of the same race and gender and that boys are more physical and aggressive while girls are more well behaved. Boys also tend to find abstract activities more interesting like video games and girls tend to be more artistic.

The same thing follows when they get to college because boys tend to major in physical sciences, and computing while girls usually major in humanities and arts. In school is where children discover peer groups or individuals that have similar interests as themselves.  People tend to indemnify more with their peer groups and can have conversations about things they understand like clothes, music, and style.  Peer groups are a way for individuals to escape adult supervision, and people are usually more outspoken in peer groups.

During the adolescent years, people tend to identify more with their peer groups because they identify themselves as an adult and that is also a time in which parents are concerned about who their children hang around because they know that who they hang around influence their behaviour deeply.  During these years the mass media heavily affects individuals as well.  Studies have shown that television has made people more passive and lessened their creativity.  In the United States, they spend the most time watching television and own the most T.V sets per household.

Closing notes:

Consider the old saying of “hold your tongue” before you speak, as the impact might not be seen now but will affect an individual for the rest of their natural life. And this I state out of my own personal experience. Enduring 9 years of emotional abuse during the most important childhood years, when the conditioning of the subconscious is the most vulnerable –  affects me to this day. A considerable amount of effort and years of self-development enable me to be able to effectively function with the support of medication.

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To your continued success,

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22 Morning Routines That Will Inspire You to Get Out of Bed (Guest Post)

Original post: Brit + Co. (27 Feb 2017)

Mornings. You either love them or hate them. If you’re trying to convince yourself to be more of a morning person, these Instagrammers definitely provide some convincing inspiration. Whether it’s relaxing moments with a good cup of coffee, spending a little time working on a creative hobby, or just enjoying a few minutes of extra cuddle time with your pooch, these snaps might just convince us to set our alarms an extra hour earlier tomorrow morning.
1. @nikiridz: Taking a couple of minutes in the morning to journal, read a book or just cuddle with your kitty is a much better way to start the day than pushing snooze until the last possible moment.
2. @myblueandwhitekitchen: We wouldn’t say no to breakfast this pretty. This Nordic-inspired porridge is whipped up with berries for a creamy, fluffy bowl of dreaminess. Check out the recipe on her beautiful blog, My Blue and White Kitchen.
3. @sashapanfilova: Morning hours can be an ideal time to get work done, especially when you have a workspace as pretty as this one. Wondering how to organize your home office? Check out some of our favorite ways to organize our desks to get you refocused and ready to attack those projects.
4. @dollyandoatmeal: Having a breakfast that you look forward to eating helps get you up in the morning. Have you tried overnight oats yet?
5. @katerera: Toast is one of our favorite breakfast staples. Even though it’s amazing with butter and jam, we’ve also come up with some other fun ways to upgrade your toast if you want to switch things up a bit.
6. @to_maria: Afternoons can get long and evenings busy, so if you’re most productive in the AM make sure you set aside some time to do a favorite hobby that might otherwise get ignored.
7. @carmina: We live for leisurely mornings where we can have coffee with our favorite people.
8. @danielabistrain: How adorable are those miniature skillets? Whether they’re baked, scrambled, or boiled, you can’t go wrong with eggs for brekkie.
9. @annettvelsberg: Start your day off right with a hefty handful of fresh berries and cherries.
10. @lightpoem: Granola is such a great way to kickstart your morning, especially when you pack it with berries, yogurt, and almond milk. Try our very own recipe for coconut Almond Chia granola and throw a baggie in your gym bag for a post-workout snack.
11. @lbtoma: Make someone else’s day by writing a few notes while you’re sipping your coffee. DIY some pretty stationery or check out our store for a variety of amazing cards.
12. @thefashionmedley: Everyone needs a tray table for breakfasts in bed, or for just making sure you don’t spill coffee on your cozy comforter.
13. @bond_i_anna: That pillowcase probably doesn’t send the right message if you’re trying to work up the courage to get out of bed, but how amazing is that headboard?? If you’re thinking of updating your bedroom decor, we’ve got some great ideas for easy DIY headboards that don’t require any power tools.
14. @shalicenoel: Some mornings are just going to be hectic, but that doesn’t mean you can’t fit in a stylish selfie or two.
15. @saltandbone: We’re all about quick and easy breakfasts. You can make a couple soft boiled eggs and toast in under five minutes for a healthy and delicious breakfast to keep you going ’til lunch.
16. @poppykock: Some mornings are just meant to be spent with our best friend.
17. @linda_lomelino: Is there anything better than pancakes in the morning? Nope, we didn’t think so.
18. @sugarandcloth: Hydrating first thing in the morning will help you feel energized during the rest of the day. Adding lemon boosts your metabolism and keeps your skin clear. If you have trouble drinking enough water, try making flavored water to keep things more interesting.
19. @polabur: Pass the syrup, please. Did you know you can make almost any pancake recipe gluten-free with one simple ingredient switch? If you’re trying to avoid gluten, check out these gluten-free recipes that use teff flour.
20. @theschoolofstyling: We won’t judge you if you’re not the first one at the gym in the morning, but taking ten minutes to stretch, do some yoga, or even just meditate can put you in a much more positive mood throughout the day.
21. @local_milk: Research has shown that taking the time to make coffee at home is actually a form of relaxation and meditation. Instead of standing in line at Starbucks, enjoy your morning coffee-making routine. Branch out from boring old drip coffee with some of these clever ways to make the best cup of joe possible.
22. @marthastewart: Join up with Martha Stewart on her #cleanslatechallenge to get some inspiration on smart meal-planning habits. Having extra time in the morning means you can pack healthy lunches for the rest of the week so you don’t splurge on unhealthy meals.
Do you have any morning routines? Share your favorite early morning moments with us in the comments below!
This article was originally published on Brit + Co.
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50 Best Practices …

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50 Best Practices… For living a well-designed life [Original: DayDesigner.com]

Very few people know what I have truly been through in my life, although some knew something was happening over the previous two years (2014 & 2015) – everyone I had personal contact with kept on asking me “How do you do it? How do you keep it all together?”

Honestly – at times I wasn’t. There were things that did slip through my fingers, opportunities that were lost, bridges that got burnt and, well things that I just did not even take notice of. There are hundreds of excuses and reasons I could come up with why I did not have it all under control … but at the end of the day, there is only one truth…

I DID NOT PLAN ANY OF IT!

Yes, the circumstance of health issues are never planned, being diagnosed with a pregnancy on twenty weeks or the medical implications of medication that was taken in those twenty weeks on the babies or me; nor the resulting medical issues of a thirty-two-week old baby being delivered and being resuscitated in theatre and all the after-effects. And then when I thought we are through with hospitals, my husband’s cancer diagnoses – I mean who plans to have cancer?

All I can say now is, THANK YOU! Thank you for the lessons that I have learned through the past two years and thank you that I was strong enough to get up every morning and keep going through it all.

BUT this is not a newspaper article to sing my songs of woe. I merely mentioned these facts to illustrate a point to you.

My point is PLANNING and ORGANISATION …

Yes, I know there are those that say I do not have time waste sitting and organising everything and then structure a plan like itsy-bitsy-tiny-pieces of a puzzle how my life should be …. And for those individuals I am only going to say this – things are only going to get worse if you don’t.

Take it from me, the way I was running my business, family, home and life before is not how the successful individual does it. If I did not change my way of thinking …. And doing; I would still be sitting somewhere in a corner sobbing my eyes out!

I am writing this blog to prove to you that there is an affordable way anyone – and yes I mean anyone – can get their life back on track ….  if they are willing to take the time to do it. For I have done it and although it has taken me the past year to get it implemented I can honestly say that I now have this sorted.

How you might ask – well, I am not going to say it is easy…. Because truthfully, it is not!

To take stock of your whole life, if you have never been taught how to do it or even tried to implement it – it is going to take some time and a lot of hard work. And I am not referring to taking stock of your financial situation, that I do with my eyes closed for clients every day… I am referring to taking stock of your life as a whole, my life might be busier than some other’s life – but to honestly take stock of my business, our home, the boys homeschooling and …. my own dreams, desires and goals …. and have it all balanced the in the same way a balance sheet should…

Well, that is a totally different matter.

I have made it my mission in life to find solutions and tools to implement in my own life – but could not find one holistic solution; however, I have created my own solutions and found a couple of gems. As you will notice I have pre-loaded several for any and everybody to access …. -> Click here

And here are some business tools I have found to assist me to be more energy-efficient, delivering more productivity.

Commun.it – Social Marketing Tracking Tool: A real-time saver by having all in one spot, with recommendations of what to do next. What a Gem! I save me time, I can now actually track and thank each individual for their engagement.

NitroFocus – Subliminal Learning / Brainwave MP3: With this MP3 I am able to ‘zone in’ and just get things done. Brilliant, especially when I am sitting in front of my laptop.

Sleeping Salon – Brainwave MP3: For those nights when my body is just so tired but my brain is going at a thousand miles per hour of what I still want to do.

ZEN12 – An hours meditation squeezed into 12 minutes, with the boys’ understanding and my business commitments, it is so much easier to get 12 minutes for a refreshing break than trying to get a full hour. Just works perfectly for me.

Pool of Positive Thinking – eBook: I was able to bring inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction to my own life.

Command & Control – eBook: Help me to take command of my own life.

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Personality and what’s the Real You?

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“Personality” – like many things in life is sort of concrete and can be difficult to define at times. The basic definition is the relatively stable characteristics that are enduring and distinctive which means it separates people from the crowd.

Psychologists that study personalities try to analyse why people act differently to different situations such as why one person acts shy when they first meet a stranger or while some people are just natural and funny and be themselves.  Some scientists believe that this is genetically engraved and that people don’t have much control over this. Other psychologists believe that it’s the environment has a significant say in the way people act.

The truth is that personality is a multi-dimensional topic and requires pieces from various theories because everyone is unique. One theory is the psychodynamic perspective which was discovered by Sigmund Freud. This theory basically states that personality merely exists on the surface and to find someone true personality you have to dig deep in mind. Psychologists who favour this approach believe that personality is an unconscious process, or that the individuals are not aware that they are conceited or confident. He was known for his controversial theory that young boys have a sexual attraction to their mother, maybe he was referring to himself with his romantic relationship with his mother who was 20 years younger than his father.

A theory of the unconscious mind that makes somewhat sense is when people are having a conversation and calls someone they know a different name. For example, if a woman broke up with her boyfriend and got a new boyfriend and calls her current boyfriend her ex-boyfriend name it could mean that he is still in her thoughts.

Freud also believes that dreams hold important motifs in behaviour.  He also believed that personality can be constructed into layers like an iceberg. The part that is buried far below the water is the id or the unconscious aspect. A good example will be children because a lot of time they will act on pleasure without thinking about the end result much. If people would have a strong id personality then this would be a very scary place to live.  People would act on natural impulses rather than conforming to social norms.  The ego is nice to have because it helps people realise reality and help conform to social norms. For example, a lot of people realise that they can’t have their sex and aggression levels high and unmanaged and when they let it go then it usually leads to crimes like rape for one.  Last, the superego also referred to as the conscious aspect is the moral decider.  It decided what is right and what is wrong.  A lot of psychologists didn’t follow Freud’s unconscious theory and a psychologist that was heavily against it was Alfred Adler.  He believed that people were motivated by purposes and goals to achieve something in life.  He also believes that people had the ability to be aware of what’s going on in their life and to consciously monitor their day to day events.  He also believed that people try to compensate for things they don’t have. For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

If people would have a strong id personality then this would be a very scary place to live.  People would act on natural impulses rather than conforming to social norms.  The ego is nice to have because it helps people realise reality and help conform to social norms. For example, a lot of people realise that they can’t have their sex and aggression levels high and unmanaged and when they let it go then it usually leads to crimes like rape for one.  Last, the superego also referred as the conscious aspect is the moral decider.  It decided what is right and what is wrong.  A lot of psychologists didn’t follow Freud’s unconscious theory and a psychologist that was heavily against it was Alfred Adler.  He believed that people were motivated by purposes and goals to achieve something in life.  He also believes that people had the ability to be aware of what’s going on in their life and to consciously monitor their day to day events.  He also believed that people try to compensate for things they don’t have. For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, in which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

Last, the superego also referred to as the conscious aspect is the moral decider.  It decided what is right and what is wrong.  A lot of psychologists didn’t follow Freud’s unconscious theory and a psychologist that was heavily against it was Alfred Adler.  He believed that people were motivated by purposes and goals to achieve something in life.  He also believes that people had the ability to be aware of what’s going on in their life and to consciously monitor their day to day events.  He also believed that people try to compensate for things they don’t have. For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

A lot of psychologists didn’t follow Freud’s unconscious theory and a psychologist that was heavily against it was Alfred Adler.  He believed that people were motivated by purposes and goals to achieve something in life.  He also believes that people had the ability to be aware of what’s going on in their life and to consciously monitor their day to day events.  He also believed that people try to compensate for things they don’t have. For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, in which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is  a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

For example, a person that tries to be superior may be doing it for their own insecurities because they will feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. This theory was known as individual psychology, in which states that people are motivated by purposes and to attain goals.  When people attempt to overcome their insecurities this is known as compensation.  When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is  a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving a positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

When psychologists ignore the unconscious mind they tend to look at the environment more when determining personality, and this is known as the behaviour approach. They believe that you can only determine personality by what you see on the outside surface.  For an example, if someone is shy, work hard, and are motivated to achieve something, this is  a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an early psychologist named BF Skinner. He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving a positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

He also believed that a person personality can change due to the stress in the environment, so he believed that personality was never consistent.  So a person that is shy can be shifted to someone that is aggressive and outgoing, and a person that is outgoing can be shifted into a shy personality all due to their environment. If a person is giving positive reinforcement for a particular behaviour, then it is more likely that it will come up again in the future. A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the

A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is a less pessimistic view, and finds the good in humans and believes that humans have the freedom to choose their own destiny.  The central theme in Roger’s approach is the self-concept which is an individual’s view of their own abilities, behaviour, traits, and personality. If a person has a distorted self-concept than most likely they will be awkward to hang around and associate with.  When analysing self-concept Rogers talked about distinguishing yourself between the real self and the ideal self. The ideal self is the type of person that we would like to be. If a person has a large conflict between their real self and the type of person that they would like to be then the more awkward or maladjusted they will act. To correct this we should try to focus more on our real self and develop a positive view on it and stop caring about what other people want or expect of us and try to have more positive experiences in our everyday lives.  Another way we can help develop a more positive view of our real self is a concept known as unconditional positive regard.  This term can be defined by being accepting of different individuals regardless of their behaviour which is kind of hard to do.  When a person is being rude, aggressive, or disrespectful, as weird as this sounds they still need support and to be loved.  This doesn’t mean to hug someone after they punch you, but more like “I don’t like the way you are acting but I still care about you and respect you as a person.”

When analysing self-concept Rogers talked about distinguishing yourself between the real self and the ideal self. The ideal self is the type of person that we would like to be. If a person has a large conflict between their real self and the type of person that they would like to be then the more awkward or maladjusted they will act. To correct this we should try to focus more on our real self and develop a positive view of it and stop caring about what other people want or expect of us and try to have more positive experiences in our everyday lives.  Another way we can help develop a more positive view of our real self is a concept known as unconditional positive regard.  This term can be defined by being accepting of different individuals regardless of their behaviour which is kind of hard to do.  When a person is being rude, aggressive, or disrespectful, as weird as this sounds they still need support and to be loved.  This doesn’t mean to hug someone after hey punch you, but more like “I don’t like the way you are acting but I still care about you and respect you as a person.”

Another way we can help develop a more positive view of our real self is a concept known as unconditional positive regard.  This term can be defined by being accepting of different individuals regardless of their behaviour which is kind of hard to do.  When a person is being rude, aggressive, or disrespectful, as weird as this sounds they still need support and to be loved.  This doesn’t mean to hug someone after they punch you, but more like “I don’t like the way you are acting but I still care about you and respect you as a person.”

Closing note:

We as a society should take all the above mentioned into consideration when dealing with our own self-development and dealing with others. Only once we can understand ourselves, we will be able to better understand those around us… For not just our own self, but for those we are directly and indirectly affected by our behaviour.

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Victims vs. Leaders

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We often hear the following statement:

“Are you a victim or a victor”

  • but what is it that sets the two apart ….?

Here are some points I have drafted to illustrate the difference between a Victim and a Leader for my oldest son.

 Victims: Leaders:
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Are at the mercy of others and circumstances – like puppets Take charge of their relationships and circumstances
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Are inconsistent & unstable Are steady, stable, consistent & reliable
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Are like a can of coke. When shaken, they explode all over the place Are like a bottle of still water.  When shaken, there are a few bubbles but calmness quickly returns.
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Wait for others to take responsibility or tell them what to do Take the initiative to do what needs to be done or to do what they need to do
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Blame others Take responsibility for their actions
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Are easily offended. They try so hard to please & don’t feel appreciated Ignore insults. Are people and task centre. Act out their own inner strength and core/essence
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Take everything personally Exude a sense of maturity. Reflect/mirror what is happening in the other.
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Are defensive & feels victimised / easily hurt Detach & reflect  what is happening in the other
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Set others up to show anger to reinforce their position as the victim Are calm, still, focused and in control Exude an aura of authority
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Are easily angered. Show no control of their tongue or situation Give themselves time to think before they speak or act
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Are Passive or Aggressive or Passively Aggressive Identify and acknowledge their anger which they channel constructively.
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Act and speak impulsively Give themselves time to think decisions  &  consequences through
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Whine and complain Show resilience. Bounce back when something bad happens
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Hide behind noise, chaos and confusion Are quiet and organised
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Have an unforgiving spirit, Harbour bitterness,   Nurture grudges Set appropriate boundaries
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Want someone else to take care of them & make decisions for them Take responsibility for themselves & make their own decisions
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Avoid taking responsibility, Avoid making decisions Are responsible and accountable, Take responsibility for their decisions and the consequences
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Avoid commitment Keep their word
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Don’t seek counsel Surround themselves with wise associates
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Adopt the attitude of “Life is about me” Adopt the attitude of “Life is about me & others”
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Are selfish and demanding Are considerate, respectful & helpful
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Are ungrateful Show appreciation freely
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Accept others conditionally Accept others unconditionally, Holding the necessary boundaries to protect themselves
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Feel sorry for themselves. Try to get others to feel sorry for them Show empathy to others by reflecting their feelings & giving support, Share their story with trusted others
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Use & take people for granted Respect and appreciate people
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Either only takes or  only give Know how to balance giving and receiving
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Are attention-seeking Share the attention with others
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Run away from problems Face problems
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Suffer from feelings of confusion, insecurity & anxiety Are insightful and calm
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Need to be needed Are aware of the difference between caring for and carrying others
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Are involved in other people’s affairs without giving them a chance to explore their own responsibilities Take responsibility for themselves – their own actions, thoughts and feelings. Give support & encouragement   to others to carry their own load
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Control others emotionally Have no need to control others
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Are  self-centred Balance caring for self and others
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Don’t identify their hopes, dreams  Identify their hopes, dreams, visions &   longings
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Regard the fulfilling of duty as a great gift to others “who don’t care or appreciate them” Use their gifts and talents joyfully in service that grows and guides others to maturity and leadership
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Focus on the negative, Assume the worst, Misery loves company Focus on being constructive and positive, Check the facts, Move on
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Are resistant to personal growth Are committed to consistent ongoing personal growth
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Often exhibit immature & inappropriate behaviour   Are emotionally immature Consistently exhibit mature & appropriate behaviour   Are emotionally mature
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Are prone to jealousy Are confident & clear about who they are: their strengths & weaknesses
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Are competitive in relationships Are supportive in relationships
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Are rebellious in relationships Are co-operative in relationships
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Have difficulty with setting & Holding boundaries Set & hold appropriate and healthy boundaries
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Play power games, Are manipulative & Are self-interested Are authentic, real, genuine, truthful & transparent Are disinterested
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Don’t have a sense of their self-worth, Are strangers to themselves Have a true sense of their identity, Are at home with themselves
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Think they need to prove themselves Have no need to prove them. Act out of their core essence
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Have undefined & unrealistic expectations of others. Ask for what they need
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Assume others will automatically  take responsibility for meeting their needs Take responsibility for asking for what they need
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Are re-active, Re-act to what is happening around them Are pro-active, Choose what they think, do and say
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Wait for things to happen Make things happen
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Want to do all the talking and have the last word Are skilled and disciplined listeners Are close & critical observers
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Are often disconnected from themselves, others and by   implication God Himself Are integrated, unified and focused
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Are spectators, Take very little or no initiative.   Criticise the initiatives of others Are participants, Take initiative and calculated risks. They push through with what they need to do
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Undervalue who they are so people undervalue what they do & say Value who they are so people value what they do & say
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Make excuses when held to account. Take responsibility when held to account.
   
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Don’t identify their vulnerability (feelings) & limits which then have power over them Identify their vulnerability ( feelings) & limits which then don’t have power over them. “The vulnerable become the invulnerable”
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Have deep-seated feelings of inadequacy and fear Have a sense of competency and trust

ADDITIONAL NOTES:

On a continuum, both victims and leaders can fall off the edge and both need to grow towards something more balanced.
There are shades of grey between each end of the continuum.
The victim role is immensely subtle.
Often there are no obvious elements.
It is often only when a person experiences irritability, anger, guilt & even hurt that he realises he has been caught by the victim.
Leaders in their confidence & strength can become unteachable.
The strength of character of the leader must not become
∆          overbearing
∆          bullying
∆          too demanding
The goal is to move towards a balanced approach to life.

I hope these notes assist you as well as it did for him.

To your continued success,

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Why Should You Set Goals?

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Wonder why some people could not even achieve an inch of what they dream of becoming? Blame it on pure dreaming and lack of setting goals for achieving their dreams.

Setting goals is a very significant part of success and positive accomplishments. It is like scaling a 20 feet building and marking early on what feet you would like to reach this specific period.

People who set goals literally create a map of their target achievements in life, marking where they should begin, where to pause, where to delve a bit, and where and when to stop. Once this map is created, it allows the map drawer to check where he is in the scheme of things and whether or not he is making some achievements that will take him closer to his goals.

By setting goals, people will know how they are doing and what they should be doing to achieve their targets or dreams in life. They will know if they can relax or if they have to double their efforts when they are falling short of what is expected of them.

Goal setting means a person is proactive in dealing with challenges that may affect his plans. Being proactive means one is able to outline possible difficulties that may occur as well as the solutions to these difficulties. By doing this, a person is not easily scared or defeated when challenges occur because he has already prepared for them. He knows they can happen and he has prepared a solution or strategy when that time comes.

Setting goals will enable people to track their progress in whatever endeavour they have set out to do. It will help people become more confident in themselves and more motivated to achieve their plans.

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However, goal setting is not enough, as this should be accompanied by a positive outlook and self-discipline. A person may have a blueprint of where he wants to go, but if he does not have the necessary discipline to carry out the plan, then nothing will come out of it.

To be successful in goal setting, the goals that one has set for himself should be realistic and based on his capabilities, as well as selected and important external factors. Being too ambitious in setting up goals can make the goals unrealistic and difficult to achieve. However, do not also set goals that are too low because this might discourage one’s vision instead of achieving it.

It is also necessary that the person setting the blueprint for his direction should also include a time frame within which the goal will be achieved. This way, he is able to determine if he has to fast track his strategies or slow down a bit. Goal setting will also help a person check if he is performing within his plans or if he is doing things towards the achievement of his plans. 

Once you have achieved something, even a little of what you hoped to achieve, then you should always give yourself a pat on the back to keep you motivated. But do not be too complacent with any little achievement, as this may cause you to backslide.

Setting goals can be used in any aspect of one’s life – from one’s personal or family life, to his career and finances.  Goal setting can be as simple as setting a target weight when you wish to lose pounds or something big, like earning your first million.

When setting goals, it is always important to set standards that would suit your present situation, your capabilities, and other factors that may influence the achievement of your goal. 

Here are two tools that I have found very useful in the pursuit of my goals

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-> Goal Planning Tool

-> Heart Goals Template.

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