Thursdays In Black

The first day I heard of “Thursdays In Black“, I almost started crying…

Not because of the way the presentation was done by Lyn van Rooyen or even the stats that was mentioned … It was the fact that deep inside to me that little voice screamed “Hallelujah” 

Finally, there is some manner to show support to all those who are currently suffering, to protest and to proudly announce that what is happing/had happened is not the end.

16 Days of Activism should be every day!

I am more than just a survivor … yes, I was abused for 9 years of my childhood and suffered in my first marriage – Emotional Abuse, Physical Abuse and Sexual Abuse… the hands of those who we were supposed to be trusted, who are supposed to care for us and nurture us.

And yes, it has been an extremely long and hard journey, to move past the physical scars, work through the psychological impact to come to an understanding of those actions and ultimately getting to a point of forgiveness towards those individuals.

There are no reasons why anybody should suffer and go through this…

BUT when I felt so isolated and alone, I wish those who I did inform and ask to help did actually speak up, to make a difference not just in my life but in the lives of other abused individuals; I wish they would have taken action …

In hindsight today I have perfect 20/20 vision and I can let go of the pain, let go of that which does not serve me. I can move forward in life knowing that I have made it this far and my entire future is still waiting for me.

But the GRANDEST GIFT OF ALL … I can tell my story, through my experience and the resulting quest to find the answers, I am able to help those who are feeling the same way I did so long ago.

We do not have to continue to suffer from the impact of the psychological scars nor do we have to accept this. We can be emotionally free, we can function independently … we can continue with a life filled with success…

All we have to do is to make the right choices moving forward!

For more information visit ThursdaysInBlack or email Lyn van Rooyen 

With Gratitude,

Yvonne E. Venter – Louw



Recovery from abuse … from a personal perspective


Research shows that domestic violence against women remains widespread and mostly unreported… and this factor is the same with violence against children…

Yet, in this day and age – a person would think that these, our role models should be better educated… should be more caring, but still, we find that that there are so many ‘Little Butterflies‘ that get bruised on a daily basis…


As this is a topic very close-to-home for me, and the main reason why I have started ‘#FromZero2Hero’, I strive to find aids and methods to assist in not just the healing process… but also the prevention.

I personally know – you are not really interested in the stats or governance of any kind… Your whole world has come to a smashing halt!

They have betrayed your love, your trust, your soul…

They might have broken not just bones, but your spirit as well…


Now, as you are reading this you are in a place that no other person could begin to understand… but my dear ‘Flaterbye‘ you are not alone…

I have been where you are now, I have known the pain and the fear; I have also cried myself to sleep in silence…

Please let me be your guide back to the light; back to the freedom; back to a life worth living…

Because my dearest ‘Flaterbye’  You are worth it!

I have found and developed quite a few tools – which honestly I wish I had when I was where you are now… Always remember, that we are all unique, so some of these may not suit you – but I am almost certain that we will find something here that will be able to assist you…

But for now… I leave you with this food for thought

7 Cardinal Rules in Life

My warmest love <<and a virtual hug>>

YEVL – the original ‘Flaterbyes’

With Love, Gratitude & Grace

  • Yvonne E. Venter-Louw
  • YEVL (Pty) Ltd.: Founding Director & Principal
  • Researcher, Advisor, Educator, Coach, Mentor, Keynote Speaker & Host of the Financial Independent Coach show on YouTube
  • Personal Thesis: The Psychological impact of past experiences (and the rehabilitation thereof) on daily driven financial decisions.
  • Naturally creating and experiencing Freedom, Meaning & Wealth!

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