Taking a long hard look at our reality…

Today, I am at a loss for words… I am sitting here thinking to myself and contemplating ways to grow out of this destruction.

How… How can I best be of service?

How can I make a difference? How can anyone person stand up in the face of danger and destruction, and make a difference?

After reading all the posts and looking at the videos… feeling the pain of each who has lost; I have to remind myself of the lessons learned I learned from the old masters, from religious tales and age-old scriptures – gnostic, dogma, doctrine and more.

“Shiva” known in the Hindu trinity as ‘The Destroyer’ is the one who creates, protects and transforms the Universe.

“Jesus” as the Son of God in Christianity also had to first be ‘destroyed‘ before He could rise up.

Aristotle, Lau Tso, Confucious, Augustine of Hippo, Socrates, Plato, Pythagoras, Kukai, Sun Tzu, Simone de Beauvoir, Allan Watts and so many more that could be mentioned… Even in the Pagan and Occult information; for that fact, other sections in the Christian Bible and the Quran – tells us that destruction is always followed by new growth.

As the phoenix rises from the ashes, a new cycle will always follow when the old one dies down.

As the grass fields are burned to black crips during the dry and cold winter months… after the first rains of spring, the new grass sprouts will change to field back to green again. Because that is what the grass is focused on in the Spring and Summer sessions. To flourish and grow taller and stronger as their roots are now set deeper than the years before.

But when the field did not burn to crips in the Winter months, it takes so much longer for us to see the new green through the old, dead brown-grey mass.

The Human Body and Spirit also abides by the same Laws of Nature. As we grow year after year, by Nature, there are cells and even ideas and thoughts that are shredded left behind and/or gets destroyed. Our Spirit goes through the same metamorphosis, as we grow and develop in our lifetime. Some beliefs and thoughts are retained while others are lost along the way, as they no longer served a purpose to us.

So, here I am sitting today, looking at the destruction – allowing myself to feel the emotions of pain, anguish, sadness, anger, disappointment, and yes, even fear… not just for myself, my family, my friends, my clients and acquaintances, but for both sides of this story. Reminding myself not to become the emotion but just allow me to experience it. Allowing myself to grow and learn from it so that I (and those I guide) can grow from this experience.

It might not seem as much, and in truth, it does not feel like much – but – once the fact and truth of this reality have settled in, after the freaky waves of confusion, fear, worry and even adrenaline has settled; it will be those who can stand as leaders, those who guide others, those who are not doing it for their own glory but for the betterment of their community, those who are not in the spotlight – they will be the ones who will be able to guide others to the love and light; to heal, to grow and to rise again out of the ashes…

So for now, I will allow my tears to flow, I will allow my heart to ache, I will allow my empathic side to experience this current situation… for tomorrow my analytical and logical side will better comprehend what needs to be done, to be able to move forward.

Children of our beloved country, South Africa, for young and old, for all the races and creeds, for all of you out there – my thoughts and prayers are with all!

In Sympathy, Empathy, Love, Gratitude and Grace,

Yvonne E. Venter-Louw

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Freedom: Tips and Life Hacks…

When it comes to planning out our lives there are a couple of tips and hacks that may assist you a great deal…

(Read to the end and find additional resources to assist you)

Here is an extract from the Day Designer blog with some of these tips and hacks…

Work backwards to prep for the day.

Wake up 15 minutes earlier. What can you do that will help you do that? Go to bed earlier. Prepare for your day the night before by deciding what’s for breakfast, setting out your clothes, and knowing what’s on the agenda. You’ll feel more eager to start your day!

Get started with the small stuff to gain momentum.

When you’re ready to start your day, check a few quick five-minute tasks off your list. This feeling of accomplishment will set you up for a more productive day!

Touch your planner before you touch your phone.

We always love this tip! Leave that phone on the charger until you’ve had some time to yourself and thought through the day ahead.

Review what matters most.

Write down your values, strengths, goals, priorities, and big projects. Review them on regular basis to keep them at the forefront of your brain!

Take breaks.

Taking a break will increase your focus and creativity! Get outside. Go for a walk. Call a friend. Enjoy your coffee without a screen in front of you. Refill your water. Or find something fun on your to-do list, such as shopping for a gift, and build that into your break!

Change your mindset to get back on track.

When you feel defeated, think of something you’re grateful for. When you feel overwhelmed, plan tomorrow. When you feel like quitting, think of the feeling you’re trying to achieve.

You can do this!

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Meaning: What is a Life Coach?

A life coach is much like it sounds, someone who helps a person with their life and tough situations that they may be encountering. A life coach can effectively help you get your life into order and create the organization as well as a great outlook on life in general. Many people don’t realize how much of a help a life coach can be for someone who is trying to get their life together. Life coaches are trained solely for the purpose of helping others, which is why it is very important to consult with a life coach that has had such training.

Although many people feel that it isn’t hard to become a life coach, those that are life coaches beg to differ. Becoming a life coach is much more than just listening to someone else’s problems or allowing them to cry on their shoulder, which is what many people don’t understand. A life coach has to know what questions to ask an individual as well as what tough questions to ask. Not only that but they also have to have certain tactics and methods to aiding the person and fixing their problems within their life.

It is very important that when you are searching for a life coach that you pick very carefully. Many people will claim to be a life coach but won’t carry out the true duties involved in being a life coach to someone. You want to make sure that you are choosing a person that has had experience in the field of fixing problems and tough life situations. It also helps out if a person has reliable sources from past clients that can vouch that the life coach did indeed help them organize their life and also helped them fix tough problems that they went through in their life.

A life coach’s main goal is to help with the motivation of a client. In a sense, a life coach can become your own personal cheerleader when you accomplish the goals that your life coach has set for you. Realize that your life coach wants to see your life changed in a positive way and this means listening, motivating, and guiding their clients in the right direction so that this can be accomplished.

Although there are many different reasons why a person would choose to incorporate a life coach in their lives, as long as you follow the strategies and help given by your life coach, you are sure to get your life back on track… the right way! So if you yourself are having troubles in your life and feel like your life is incomplete shambles and disorganization, then hiring your very own personal life coach may just be your ticket to having the structured and organized life you have always dreamed of.

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Why is it important to improve yourself?

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Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.”  More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us – when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.

You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”

We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself in the mirror and murmurs to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self-improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your fingernails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.

I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notice how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in her environment.

One key to self-improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone with who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”,  “Does my breath smell?”,  “Do I ever bore you when were together?”.  In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self-improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!”  Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve herself.

One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.

Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self-improvement. Self-improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.

Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on.  Accepting your true self is the first step to self-improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.

We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life needs not be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self-improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

“If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run, then walk, if you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther King Jr

Here are some inspirational quotes to get your day started.  

  1. Logic will get you to A-Z. Imagination will get you everywhere.
  2. The person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.
  3. Try not to become just a man of success, but rather try become the man of value.
  4. It’s not that I am smart; it’s just that I stay with problems longer.
  5. Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The most important thing is to not to stop questioning.
  6. The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.
  7. Everyone is a genius, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.
  8. A clever person solves a problem. A wise person avoids it.  
  9. A ship is always safe at a shore – but that is NOT what it is built for.  
  10. It’s fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.

My friend just shared this with me and I thought of sharing it with you, as well …

Health
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did last year.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality
11. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t give in to negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t overdo. Keep your limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need…
18. Forget and forgive issues from the past. Don’t remind your partner of His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree…

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day, give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. Love has healing power.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come…
38. When you awake alive in the morning, be thankful for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not least: Sharing is caring and creates happiness, feel free to forward this to everyone you care about, I just did by sharing these awesome tips with you.

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To our continued success,

Yvonne E. Venter – Louw

How past experiences affect your life

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Sociologist Herbert Mead developed a theory known as social behaviourism, which helped explained why past social experiences help form an individuals’ personality. Mead did not believe that personality was developed by drives or biologically, but more on terms socially.  He stated that the self only developed when people interact with one another. Without the interaction of other people, an individual can’t develop a personality. An example of this is if a child is left in total isolation for a long period of time then they don’t mature both physically or mentally.

Next, social experience is crucial, and this includes the exchange of symbols. Only people attach meanings to words and symbols. If you tell a dog to sit and it obeys then you may give it a snack. However, this doesn’t mean it knows why to sit down, but it does so to get food. You can tell a dog to sit for numerous reasons such as wanting to impress your friends or to calm it down because it is running all over the place. Also, Mead noted that understanding individual intentions are critical.  This will help us to analyse how an individual will respond even before we act.  For example, when we’re driving we all anticipate what others may do because of experience. If an individual behind you is speeding up rather quickly, then you can assume that they are about to switch lanes, or you can assume that they are in a rush and need to get somewhere quickly. Mead refers to this as taking another individual’s role.

The truth may hurt someone for a short period but a lei will hurt forever

 Another important theory that is related to social behaviourism is the looking-glass self. This is basically like mirroring what we think others think of us.  If we think others view you as being “good looking,” then you will see yourself as being good looking, or if you think people think that you are fat then you will have that image of yourself. People take the roles of other people during development. Infants have very little knowledge so they tend to mimic others. Children often have creative minds and take on roles of other significant others or people such as parents that have special importance in their social development.  For example, children will playhouse in which someone will take the role of a mother while another take that of a father. As they age children will learn to take various roles and adjust to their surroundings. As we continue to age we will continue to see changes in our social life.

There are a lot of critics of Mead’s theories and some claim that he focuses too much on society in developing an individual’s behaviour. Another sociologist Erik H. Erikson stated that, unlike Freud who believed that personality was pretty much set in stone in the first couple of years of an individual’s life, that personality changes in stages and occurs all the way up to death. His theory is not all that accurate as well because people experience changes in different orders and times. Through all of the disagreements, sociologists generally agree on this main idea, and that is that the family has the greatest impact on an individual’s socialisation abilities. When an individual is an infant they have no control and usually rely on their parents and family members to help nurture them.

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Through family, they learn several communication techniques such as trust, culture, and beliefs.  Don’t get me wrong, not all learning comes solely from family; they can come from the environment as well because in a lot of cultures they use the environment to help raise a child. I guess the saying is true in which it takes a “village to raise a child.” It may not be surprising to you that different social classes tend to raise their children differently. An interesting survey that happened in the United States compared what a lower class family would want in a child compared to that of an upper-class family.  A lower-class family would usually favour obedience and conformity while an upper-class family would tend to favour creativity and good judgment (NORS, 2003).

Have you ever wondered why? Well, the reason is lower-class workers tend to have jobs that they must be very obedient in and are highly supervised. Subconsciously they are gearing their children towards that route and will even use physical punishment to achieve it. In upper-class workers, they tend to have jobs that inspire individuality and creativity which is very similar to the traits they would like to have in their children.

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The school also has a large effect on an individual’s personality. If you think about it, you spend a huge chunk of time each day at school. It’s also interesting to note that children tend to play with people of the same race and gender and that boys are more physical and aggressive while girls are more well behaved. Boys also tend to find abstract activities more interesting like video games and girls tend to be more artistic.

The same thing follows when they get to college because boys tend to major in physical sciences, and computing while girls usually major in humanities and arts. In school is where children discover peer groups or individuals that have similar interests as themselves.  People tend to indemnify more with their peer groups and can have conversations about things they understand like clothes, music, and style.  Peer groups are a way for individuals to escape adult supervision, and people are usually more outspoken in peer groups.

During the adolescent years, people tend to identify more with their peer groups because they identify themselves as an adult and that is also a time in which parents are concerned about who their children hang around because they know that who they hang around influence their behaviour deeply.  During these years the mass media heavily affects individuals as well.  Studies have shown that television has made people more passive and lessened their creativity.  In the United States, they spend the most time watching television and own the most T.V sets per household.

Closing notes:

Consider the old saying of “hold your tongue” before you speak, as the impact might not be seen now but will affect an individual for the rest of their natural life. And this I state out of my own personal experience. Enduring 9 years of emotional abuse during the most important childhood years, when the conditioning of the subconscious is the most vulnerable –  affects me to this day. A considerable amount of effort and years of self-development enable me to be able to effectively function with the support of medication.

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Reach for your own dreams…

When I was sorting all the content I have collected over the years I came across an old email for Billy Cox, with the title “3 Step to reach your dreams”.

It brought me to the realisation, I have had my dream for as long as I can remember and have been on this search for answers for almost just as long – ever since my Step-Father told me that “You will study Accounting, Economics and computers, cause that is the way our world is going…” and although at that stage I felt as if he was cursing me to the same life him and my mother was living, I really want to thank him today for forcing me into that academic direction.

Now you may ask yourself what does that get to do with reaching for your dream…?

Right?

Well short and simple – VERY THING!

First, you have to understand that I have always had this passion, no… it’s more a deep heart-throbbing need to help others who needed it most. As a child, I always thought this need would be fulfilled by becoming a Trauma Doctor, but not the kind that sits in an emergency room waiting for the patients to come to them – no! The kind that goes out to the scene of an accident. The one that saves lives on ground zero, there where the ‘hurt’ has happened… and my grades, understanding of the subject matter, interest and of course the fact that I can handle and comfort those in pain – made it all seem to fit perfectly.

Alas, with being forced into a financial academic high school career, I thought that this would never happen. Yet, I hold on to that dream, to the extent I today believe which was one of the reasons I married my ex-husband.

For you see, he helped me to realise the reality of that dream for a brief moment in my life. Becoming a volunteer at the Fire brigade, working beside him and effectively obtaining my qualifications and experience as a paramedic. And for that, I am thankful to him.

Until the day, I almost met my Maker; the day I was forced to choose between my own life and that of saving a 3-year-old child’s life. Forced with what I only found out later was an AK-47… That was the last call-out I attended and also the last time I thought I would ever be able to help those in dire need. By the way – we did get the child out, with

By the way – we did get the child out, with the protection of the police to the hospital. From the last that I heard he was doing well with his recovery after the burns almost claimed his life. But I digress from the reason for this section…

You see even after that event and taking into account my own personal history, I still had this burning, throbbing, deep-seated need to fulfil – this yearning to help and assist. For years I have tried to crack my brain open, and on a few occasions almost did, but really tried to find a way. How to help in a way that I best can to ‘save’ their lives…. And after the last time, I almost succeeded in physically breaking my scalp open – it hit me with the same force that the torque wrench did… and today I have the scar to prove it; for in that moment when my husband [who just that day, received the news that it was cancer that they have removed] ran to get a towel to stop the blood, my oldest son getting a full-on panic attack, our then 4 year old not understanding what is going on other than something has gone wrong, and a mother almost incapable to drive me to the emergency rooms due to her own shock… I realised that I have been sitting on all the answers for so long, I was just not able to see the bigger picture.

In that moment of clarity, flat on my back on the garage floor and once again later that evening while the doctor was stitching me up, I knew! For less than a month before that day – I was driving back from the hospital, where my hubby has almost collapsed on me after his surgery the previous day; I was sobbing my eyes out because of the fear of losing my best friend, my love, my soul mate to an unseen evil, an evil that most of who I personally know, did not win the fight against…. I wished, prayed and even cursed that it was not fair.

Not fair that neither of us had achieved our lifelong dreams and that it is unfair that now that when we are just getting ahead, this must come across our path; but to be honest the cursing was more towards the fact that it is unfair to leave me alone with our three boys, who are so young; leaving them with just one role-model who was still trying to find her own direction in life…

That evening I wrote a letter to the boys in which I prayed to be able to find my way through it all and be the parent I wished I had as a child. That was the first time I actually committed to paper what I have always thought my lifelong desire was. In the days that followed, up to the day of my scalp-cracking attempt – I have read the letter several times. I repeated the words over and over in an attempt to ensure what I have written down will be understood by all three of them…

Today, I realise that I have eventually got it right without realising it. What all the Guru’s and coaches always tell us to do… those 3 simple steps …

As Jim Dornan states in one of his book titles: “It’s simple, Not Obvious“. The reality of change only happens when you take action… in the doing!

When I wrote the letter, I Listed my dreams; when placing the letter in a safe place where I could get to it easily at any time, I Posted my dreams; and by repeatedly reading the letter to ensure that the wording was correct and understandable for even the smallest, I Read them Daily. Thus, by accident enforcing what so many of the coaches have repeatedly told me to do.

Where I am sitting now – I can honestly say that it is so simple, yet because we close our minds with the preconceived ideas of what people are trying to share with us, we miss the simple instruction and it obviously slips by us.

Robert T. Kiyosaki stated in his book “The Business School for people who like helping people”, he himself had a closed mind for several years, until the day a friend who he respected for his financial wisdom, gave him a snipped – a single sentence – that create curiosity in him. This leads to a change of mind and later an open mind to the business type.

Thus, to summarise what I am trying to convey to you is this…

  1. When you commit to self-development, do so with an open mind. Look at the content as if you are hearing or seeing this for the first time and exclude any negative or preconceived thoughts about what you think you know.
  2. Once you start a month commit for the full month, if you have honestly at the end of that month not seen the smallest of changes in your own life, then we can call it a day. And part as friends.
  3. You must do self-development for yourself! Actually do it, physically take action, follow and implement the instructions. Otherwise, we are just wasting each other’s time and it would be best that we part ways as friends.

So, your first instruction is as follows – anywhere on a page write the following words “Enough has been enough, today and every day moving forward is going to be 100% better than the previous day and for that I am grateful!” ………

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What is in your financial cupboard?

  • It is our ability to choose that makes us human → Madeleine L’ Engle
  • The good life is the enemy of a great life → Nancy Dornan 
  • The future belongs to those Who belief in the beauty of their dreams → Elenor Roosevelt
  • Dreams come a size too big, so that we can grow into them → Josie Bissett 
  • What you’re Suppose to do when you don’t like a thing a thing change it! If you can’t change it , change the way you think about it. Don’t Complain ! -> Maya Angelou 

Just like these remarkable Ladies, there are so much more… Even in our own South African history:

  • There are those who did not just understand the secrets of success but paid it forward to the generations who followed.
  • From Our ancestors who thrived in a harsh and untamed wilderness to those who move to unknown lands to start from scratch.
  • Strong Women, women Who stood up for our rights and our protection.
  • Women who have fought and are still fighting battles – Women who lead by example.
  • Women who today still speak out for what IS right  = Making a stand. Leaving their mark, their legacy in our world….

But how does this rich history tie into Finance? What does this have to do with what is in your cupboard?

Everything = It is a reflection of the impact of those who have gone before us, the lessons that we have been taught … or what we have not been taught; and the perception of our understanding of what has been given to us. It should be our reflection of gratitude … Proverbs states = When there is no vision / the people Will perish

This is not a history lesson or a “Who has first right” or a religious sermon … This is not a  “wihsy-washy” Wish Your dreams come true kind of thing. This is directed to each individual Lady sitting here, reading this blog → to keep an open mind and listen to the message intended for you! For everything happens for a reason and there is a reason why you are sitting here today!

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Imagine You are Standing in front of this cupboard = Boring ….. right? There is nothing to wear?

But…What of the Unseen? The proverbial skeletons that take up space in this cupboard?

This is similar to Your financial planning -…. your finances —— Your life. Something is missing

We all come from different backgrounds, influences/houses (unless You are siblings) but even then Your perception of that environment is different to your closest sibling. We are all individually Unique by nature, and our uptake and thoughts of these inferences are just as such…. unique to us. For instance, let’s pretend You have a “Once in a lifetime” event and this is Your cupboard…

Your wedding or even a State Dinner to meet face-to-face the queen of England or Us President Or any international public figure that you will never ever be able to meet again, let alone be able to sit next to at the dinner table … Are you going to use what is in this cupboard? Are you going to borrow from friends and family? Or are you going to go BIG and buy or even have a new outfit tailored for You?

DO You have the ability to do this with what is in Your bank account today, without batting an eyelid? Or swipe a credit card or chase up a Credit limit On a clothing ACC? Are you going to do Your own hair makeup and nails? Or are you going to get a friend to help you? Or are you going to get professional help?

But remember You must still keep up with Your daily/ weekly/ monthly Commitments and did I forgot to mention the event is Tonight!

Realistic … and let us be 110% honest – Which option can you take today?

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What if I give you a fourth option? This Complete Cupboard stock with only Your selections and size to fit?

No credit; No if, and, or, but’s ….. And you have in this cupboard a limitless choice?

Can you look like a showroom model or celeb on the red carpet?

What if – You can live your life knowing that whatever may happen – you will be more than just fine or okay? Let’s say this once in a lifetime event is not a happy one … You are diagnosed with Cancer / Parkinsons / Alzheimers today … or have a stroke or heart attack or motor vehicle accident?

Can your financial Cupboard support you for 6 to 9 months of treatment to recovery? Or support You and those Who are dependent on You, for the remainder of Your natural life or until they can Support themself? The facts are and statistics show that 95% of us here …. will not be able to!

Furthermore, can you be assured you will be emotionally strong enough to make it through… after all that you have already been through – can you carry on? Or will this be the straw that breaks the camel’s back?

True life story ….. Mrs SG:

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Mrs SG was a young, happily married mother of a 4-year-old boy. Her husband has just started what seemed to be a very successful business and they had everything going for them. New house, new cars, new school for the little one. Everything was fine-and-dandy … or was it?

For one night he did not come to collect her from work. He was not answering his phone. Nobody knew where he was… He was gone!

Unfortunately, more than a week later Mrs S G found her husband – dead, marked as a John Doe in the State Mortuary …  How would You feel …. finances aside … Would this be you?

9O’ % of us have had these feelings on a regular basis, even though it was not due to the passing of a loved one or diagnoses of some kind … but rather of other circumstances or situations. Less than 10% of us might never even go through these feelings, reality is we are all going to go through this at some point in our life, or have already gone through it … and might currently be in this turmoil of feelings.

But what if…?

What if there is a way to prepare ourselves? A way to ensure our own Financial and Emotional, Success, Freedom = The certainty of knowing tomorrow the sun will shine again? Knowing that “Money” will be there → “Support” will be there … even if it has never been there before?

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It is all possible with the correct planning/ assistance/ motivation/ coaching … with the right “person” by your side, guiding you and providing you with the correct resources and tools… and a few “life-Hacks” along the way.

The same as the clothes in your cupboard …. not one size and style fit all and unfortunately, this is something that the general society wants to imprint on us.  Although most do not want to admit to the fact, they also find themselves sometimes standing on the outside looking in … but would rather pretend to fit in just to not draw the wrong attention to themselves.

For those of us who have been standing on the outside for so long, that we have become accustomed to the view and the feelings … this is meant for you!

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BUT WHY SHOULD YOU LISTEN TO ANYTHING THAT I HAVE TO SAY?

Cause I have already walk more than just a mile in these shoes, I know what it feels like when there are no longer tears to flow … When the light of day does not even light the dark of the hole you think you are in…

It does not become easier, time does not heal all wounds, and not all friends are really the “correct” influence on your life!

Compare these facts:

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Last week at a seminar, which I attend as part of my research,  I started off sitting by myself and was joined by a total stranger.

We started talking and I found myself later with an additional two strangers sitting at our table – hanging on to every word that has been exchanged. That being said – I was only made aware later, of the crowd that was standing around our table, who were all also following the conversation…

Once again I realised how little of the knowledge and know-how is actually been shared with those who really need it.  Even those who are willing to share their knowledge, their experiences and their “formula” to success – are only willing to do so at a HUGE PRICE TICKET… Or even bigger Commissions that indirectly affect each and every Mrs YOU out there.

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Now let’s be honest, where are you sitting today?

Are you enjoying every Summer Sunset and Spring Flower that starts to bloom?

Or are you stuck in a Winter of your own discontent?

Or are you just surviving through this Autumn?

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Do you want to achieve your own success? 

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Do you want to maintain a balanced lifestyle?

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Do you want to have the financial and emotional freedom you have always dreamed of … but just never seem to achieve?

It’s your choice!

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Guest Blog… It’s Your Life

Date: 23 July 2016

Written by: Bob Proctor – Proctor Gallagher Institute

Insight of the day – Friday Story:

Sonika: Back when I was 8 years old, I had a pretty traumatic experience (well it was probably traumatic because I was only 8 years old). I was in a shopping mall with my parents and we were on the escalator, and as we approached the bottom, I saw a fish tank on my right. I was immediately drawn to its colourful presence and stopped to take a look. Wide-eyed, I cupped my hands around my face and peered into the fish tank. I saw blue stripes, red scales and yellowfins. It felt like only 5 minutes had gone by, but when I turned around my parents had disappeared. ‘They couldn’t have gone very far,’ I thought to myself, but every passing second felt like an eternity. I started to panic and ran towards the middle of the aisle and stood there, frantically searching through the crowd. Images flashed in my mind of everything I had learned from school about what to do when you get lost. And suddenly, I knew exactly what to do. I trusted those images in my mind and I stood there, calming myself down. Rule #1: Stay where you are so they know where to find you. Rule #2: Figure out where you are so you know what to do in order to get where you want to go. I stood there and turned in all directions: North, South, East and West. I realized I was in the perfume and makeup area of the mall. I was just starting to look for someone who could help when a lady walked up to me and asked me what my name was and why I was alone. I told her I couldn’t find my parents, and she told me she would help me and took my hand. At that very moment, I heard my mom call my name from behind. I turned around and there she was. I realized at that moment, that if I hadn’t figured out where I was, I wouldn’t have known what to do, and we all would have probably run around frantically for the next hour trying to find each other.

Just like that 8-year-old in the story, we first need to know where we are and who we are in order to figure out where we want to go. This is probably the hardest question to answer: Who Am I? This is the greatest challenge most people face, because they don’t know who they are, and they aren’t even aware that they don’t know. If you want to change your results, you better know who you are.

What puts you in a positive vibration? What are some things that you really want to achieve in life? Now you may think that you really want something, but there’s a reason that result is not manifesting in your life. There is a difference between a simple wish and a burning desire.

Naveed: When I was in 5th Grade, I was told that I could select any extra class of my choice. I decided to take a class on acoustic guitar. At this point, I had no idea how to play a single note, let alone formulate a simple melody like ‘Mary Had a Little Lamb’. But I wasn’t afraid; in fact, I was excited. There was something seeking expression from within, I felt illuminated at the thought of one-day playing notes like Jimmy Hendrix. I didn’t care how difficult it was going to be, or how long it would take, I just knew I would one day play like him. There I was on my first day, holding a guitar for the first time. When my instructor taught me the formation and my fingers pressed firmly onto the metal strings, it felt as though they were piercing through my skin. It was one of the most painful experiences I had ever had, and it didn’t get any easier. I had callouses and cuts all over my fingers. That desire to learn, however, never stopped. I kept at it until I could finally hold the chord successfully. Then I took it to the next level by buying an electric guitar. After 6 years of trials and errors, practising 28 hours a week, I was finally able to play some of Hendrix’s best pieces.

We live our life on a day-to-day basis, wishing for a different outcome. We dream about turning our hobbies into our careers, we sit and think about the person we want to spend the rest of our life with. We know what we desire, but how do we achieve it? This is where we can differentiate between that fire – that burning desire – from simple wishes. The way to know that you have a burning desire is simply to look at the way you are pursuing it.

If you are going after what you really want, it must be something that scares you and excites you at the same time. You are God’s highest form of creation and there is no limit to what you can do. We used the exact principles to create a major shift in our own lives and now we have shared this gift with you. It’s YOUR life – and it’s YOUR responsibility to make the necessary changes to achieve the results you desire.

Naveed Asif & Sonika Madarasmi Asif

This is an excerpt from Naveed & Sonika’s new book called It’s Your Life: Your Results Are Your Choice.

“Change is inevitable, but personal growth is a choice.” – Bob Proctor

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